Time Line
Here I have brief synopsis of events by year and month with
links that take you to more detailed document. The links located on the Month names next to the year on the right
lead to the journal Takako kept on the kids for the year 2004. Other links
are provided as they come up.
2004 The Year of Custody Battle
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1992 In the Beginning |
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1992 June |
After I got out of the Army after serving 4
years. I moved in with my high school buddy |
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1992 July |
Shortly after we met, Stacy informed me that
she was pregnant with my child. This was unexpected for me but pregnant is
pregnant. A guy has to own up to it. I thought to myself "I guess this
is it." |
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1992 Aug |
Since we are going to
be "together" I move into Stacy's house with her mom. Of course living with
in-laws is difficult, so next month so Stacy and I get an apartment together.
Around this time, I introduce Stacy to my family and friends. They all tell
me, "you can do better" but I am determined to make this work. |
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1992 Dec |
Stacy miscarries. I was devastated. By this
time, my family and friends have distanced themselves from me to avoid Stacy.
I was working two jobs and going to school full time. Stacy was
understandably very depressed and spent most of her time moping at home. |
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1993 Sept |
Stacy becomes pregnant with Zach. This was a
slightly positive time in our relationship. We were happy to actually be on
our way to have the family we started to have a year ago. |
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1994 June |
Zach is born. I was present at his birth. Zach
was a very active baby, he cried and cried and cried all the time. |
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1994 Nov |
My brother Rick and his girl friend Julie move
in with Stacy and I. They are saving up money to get a place of their own and
asked to stay with us. Julie had a job but Rick was still looking around. So
it turned out that Rick and Stacy spent a lot of time at home together. Around this time, Stacy becomes pregnant
with Mirrissa. |
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1995 May |
Zach is now almost a year old. I graduated
from |
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1995 Aug |
That summer was difficult for us. Stacy and I
were not getting along. I was busy with work and school and didn't help her
with Zach and around the house as Stacy would have liked. Stacy was lonely
with nothing to do all day except care for Zach. |
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1996 Jan |
By winter, we break up and Stacy decides to
move back in with her mother in Spokane. I didn't
oppose her taking Zach because there was no way I could care for him at that
time. |
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1996 July |
I graduate from |
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1996 Aug |
Mirrissa is born. That fall, after Mirrissa
was born, Stacy allowed me to see the kids once a week or so at a local park.
I wished I could see them more but when the weather was bad, you can't force
babies to go outside. |
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1996 Oct |
Early winter, Stacy applies to receive child
support and is granted custody of Zach and Mirrissa by Washington State court order along with child
support obligations. I had weekly contact with Stacy and the kids but no
mention of this was made. I received notification of custody hearing but
didn't attend, neither did Stacy. I understood that I had to pay child
support and that was fine with me. That winter there was an extremely cold ice
storm which killed a lot of the trees on my mom's property. I spent most of
the winter logging the trees with my mom's husband. It was hard work but I
made quite a bit of money and I was pleased. |
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1997 March |
In the spring, Stacy starts collecting on child support payments and welfare. She
gets her own apartment and starts school at the local community college. Stacy asks me to watch the kids while she
attends classes so I was only happy to oblige. For a couple of months, I get
to see the kids almost daily. By the summer, I resumed my relationship with
Stacy. |
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1997 Sept |
Stacy struggled in school and by September of
that year, she simply quit. I moved into the apartment with Stacy and the
kids. Stacy got a job as a nursing assistant worked for home health care
company. Zach is 2 years old and
Mirrissa just had her first birthday. For a blissful couple of months, I was
a stay at home dad and took care of the apartment and the kids. |
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1998 Jan |
Stacy meets a new boyfriend and break up with
me. I moved back in with my mom. Stacy
files harassment charges on me but is dismissed. Around this time, Stacy is fired from her job
and couldn't pay the rent and moves back in with her
mom. Stacy stayed home with her disabled mom and rarely needed a baby
sitter. I missed the kids a lot that spring because Stacy let me see the kids
at a park once a week or so but would not let me see them alone for any
length of time. |
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1998 April |
In April, Stacy breaks up with her boyfriend
and asked me to come back to her. I missed the kids and I agree. We move into
a new apartment. |
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1998 May |
I find out about Stacy double dipping on Child Support. |
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1999 |
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2000 Jan |
In January of 2000, I was offered a promotion as
Assistant Programming Manager in the |
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2000 Aug |
Zach started 1st grade in |
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2000 Dec |
Pictures
of the kids at Christmas time. |
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2001 Aug |
Zach repeats 1st grade, first of many setbacks
in the kids schooling. Mirrissa in Kindergarten. |
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2001 Sept-Nov |
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2001 Dec |
In December Stacy I and the kids take a trip
back to |
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2002 Feb |
I secretly started seeing a coworker and
naturally, my relationship with Stacy deteriorated. |
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2002 March |
I am finally able to close on my new house in |
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2002 April |
Kids transfer to |
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2002 May |
I hold a house warming party and invite all my
friends and coworkers. We all have a great time. Our neighbors Nikki and Dan
invite us over to their house to enjoy their large pool. |
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2002 June |
Stacy's mom comes to visit us from |
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2002 July |
After a couple of weeks in the hospital,
Stacy's momm passes away. Stacy goes to WA to take
care of her mother's affairs, and the kids go with her. |
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2002 Aug |
Waiting for the sale of Stacy's moms house,
Zach starts 2nd grade in WA |
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2002 Sept |
Stacy returns from WA with the kids. Stacy is
especially lonely after loss of her mother. Emails
after Stacy returned from |
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2003 Jan |
Stacy is suspicious that I am having an
affair. More e-mails between Stacy and I. |
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2003 Feb |
Couple of days before Valentines Day, Stacy
shows up at work unexpectedly. I was out of the office so she went through my
desk and found receipts for Valentine day flowers. I had purchased a dozen
for my girlfriend, and half dozen for Stacy. Bad move. Stacy is furious and
starts yelling, throwing things and hitting the walls. I try to tell her to
be quiet but finally the boss tells us to get out. (Emails) As a result of the disturbance, I am demoted
from Programming Manager to just Programmer. Despite my cheating on Stacy, Stacy wants me
to stay with her. I decide that Stacy deserves every chance for the kids'
sake. I tell Stacy that we can work on our relationship for the next month
and then we can discuss breaking up or not then. As a matter of principal, to
give our relationship every chance, I break up with my girlfriend. For a
month, Stacy and I are on our best behavior. (e-mails) |
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2003 March |
After a month of consideration, I decide to
break up with Stacy for good. Stacy continues to beg for me to stay with her.
She embarks on a campaign to improve herself in my image. One such endeavor
is to enroll in High Tech Institute to become an X-ray technician. (e-mails) |
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2003 April |
Things have started to fall into a routine.
Stacy goes to school in the evening and leaves the house at |
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2003 June |
Stacy decides to come looking for me at work
one Saturday and create another scene. (e-mail).
I am finally officially fired from my salaried position as Programmer. Based
on my good work history, the company allows me to continue as an hourly data
processor while I look for a new job. |
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2003 July |
Takako is offered a new career opportunity and
decide to leave |
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2003 Aug |
Through help of good friends and co workers, I
find a new job in I started my own business doing some
programming for a coworker who started his own company. This little extra
income is essential to keeping the bills paid for two households. I am
grateful for the work. Stacy continues to have free use of the ATM
card and the bank account to purchase whatever she needs at the house. But in
an attempt to become more independent, Stacy gets a job at a nearby gas station
working third shift.
With her going to school from Zach starts 3rd grade, Mirrissa is now in 1st
grade at Kathleen Elementary. |
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2003 Sept |
Stacy files to obtain a restraining order
against Takako. She accuses Takako for making harassing phone calls, writing letters to her, and drawing
graffiti on the exterior of the house and back of the Ford truck I drive. No
charges are filed and the restraining order request is dismissed. |
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2003 Oct |
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2003 Nov |
Months are passing with this arrangement. Even
though there is drama every weekend, I start to feel happier and optimistic for
the future. Slowly, Stacy realizes that she needs to prepare for a separation
and she sends me a draft of a "Living
Agreement" she wrote up for me to sign. (e-mails) |
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2003 Dec |
I have settled into my work and things are
looking up. Things with my girl friend are working out. With her help, I find
and move in to a decent apartment that is 5
miles from work with a great view of the water. And best of all, it is in the
Negotiations with Stacy on the separation agreement continue. |
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2004 Jan |
Stacy moves to duplex in Holly Hill which is just
south of Ormond Beach. First set of parenting
schedule is in place and I start giving Stacy her
money. Children enroll in |
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2004 |
Stacy goes through numerous parenting schedule
changes and creates scenes whenever she had to relinquish the kids. Second parenting schedule takes effect at the
end of the month. |
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2004 March |
Another huge fight
with the kids in the middle. Final straw, I retain Mr. Paul Rice and move
forward with legal measures. Stacy and I continue to have problems with
schedule. She continues to ask me for more money. Finally I have the attorney
write her a letter. |
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2004 April |
On a brighter note, Takako is able to find renters for my house is |
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2004 May |
Stacy receives paperwork regarding the
domestication of the Stacy gets a job at the local Race Track gas
station working the DCF is contacted. Stacy starts using a
babysitter Michelle Rollings. I have a private investigator interview Nikki, our neighbor in |
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2004 June |
*Mother's notice of
contest of domestication of foreign judgment. Stacy retains Garry Fox as her attorney. Dispute
with Stacy regarding summer camp, karate
camp and day care arrangements for the summer. Kids are sneaked off to attend
summer camp at YMCA Camp Wynona. |
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2004 July |
*WA order
is domesticated in FL. The renters of my
house in Stacy suddenly decides to give Tuesday and
Wednesday visitation. |
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2004 Aug |
*Motion to
designate father to make decisions concerning education. *Motion for Co
Parenting counseling *Motion to Modify
Foreign Judgment. Stacy enrolls children in Holly Hill
Elementary School. I get in contact
with teachers Stacy suddenly ends Tuesday and Wednesday
visitation. Hurricanes blow through |
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2004 Sept |
Stacy,
kids and I start counseling with Ms. Devine. |
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2004 Oct |
Stacy meets new love interest, Alan. Stacy
said they bonded over sharing experiences on cheating ex's. Takako moves in with me at my apartment and
starts working as a Timeshare sales person at Club Navigo.
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2004 Nov |
* Mediation with
Richard Gordon * Request
court order for custody evaluation * Interrogatories
requested to Stacy My step mom Dolly
and my dad visit from I am served with foreclosure notice papers for
my house in Sessions with Ms.
Jane Devine continue. Stacy says she is having "trust issues" with
her new boyfriend because of what I did to her. |
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2004 Dec |
Mirrissa is in a Christmas chorus performance.
We volunteer for the Stacy decides to move in with Alan after one
month and the kids move to Palm Coast which is
approximately 25 miles north. Stacy tells me that kids are going to school at
Indian
Trails Elementary starting January. It is an excellent school less than a
mile from their new house. I approve, perhaps too enthusiastically. The next
day, Stacy decides to obtain a variance so kids can commute to Holly Hill
Elementary. |
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2005 Jan |
With trial looming, Stacy proactively starts
discussing visitation schedule and household rules. I draft the parenting plan and the list
of do's and don'ts Stacy rattled off. Stacy reviews it and make
changes. *Trial, utter defeat. Final
Parenting Order Letter to Stacy (and here's what I really wanted to say).
My girlfriend and I go on a cruise to the |
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Conference with the kids' school teachers. *Child support hearing. Wage garnishment
starts. Stacy suddenly starts dropping the kids off at
my place in the morning. I find out she fired the babysitter. Babysitter
refuses to talk to me saying "I just don't want to have anything to do
with Stacy anymore". |
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All four of us go to Mud
Monkey and paint pottery. At the end of March, I move to |
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My drivers license is suspended for $500 that
wage garnishment didn't take back in January. My last visit with the
kids for the year. Kids call to ask me to bring their bikes over
to their house. |
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Stacy petitions the court "Motion to relocate to |
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My brother Rick is arrested for murdering his
wife and two children. I visit my
family for the funeral with Takako. Stacy said that
Mirrissa "cried all night" after hearing the news. I call Zach on his birthday. He is 11 years
old, They are on their way out to eat at Cracker Barrel. I wish him happy
birthday. |
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Takako and I go to Miami for a short vacation in South Beach. Takako and I are chosen to be in the Tivo infomercial
that will be filmed in |
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Stacy moves with Alan to Zach is in 5th grade, Mirrissa in 3rd grade at
Doctors
Inlet Elementary School. (School
District Zone Map, school
website). Good thing is that this school is ranked "A" in I call Mirrissa on her birthday. She is 9
years old. She is busy and hangs up quickly. Stacy calls demanding Mirrissa's insurance card
to get her evaluated for ADHD at the request of the new school. I send
another copy to Stacy. No claims yet. |
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Stacy marries Alan.
They take the kids out of school to visit Alan's family in Later in the month I am able to pay back child
support and get my license back. |
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The state is late giving Stacy her child
support check, so she calls and threatens to suspend my license. Zachary
leaves a voice mail asking why "you don't love us and why you don't want
us to be part of your life anymore". I don't call back because there is
nothing I can say to Stacy that won't indirectly hurt the kids. |
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Mirrissa calls to ask for her ceramic piggy
bank she painted at Mud Monkey. When I tell her to ask for one for Christmas,
she replies that mommy needs money for food so she won't buy me one. Zach
calls and asks for his Yu-gi-oh cards. |
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Takako and I send a Christmas card with our
picture to the kids. Stacy declines
grandma's present of horse back riding lessons for the kids because it is
"too far" to drive. I call the kids on Christmas day. Zach got a
motorcycle for Christmas. Zach hands the phone over to Mirrissa because they
are about to go out to eat. Mirrissa hangs up after saying "I don't want
to talk anymore". Stacy was coaching her to say in the back ground. Couple hours later, Mirrissa leaves a
message on voice mail with a well rehearsed litany of what she got for
Christmas and how she enjoys it. She trails off saying, "was that all
mama...?" |
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Stacy calls to say the Zach calls to ask for his bicycle and Yu-Gi-Oh cards, says he is in |
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No contact with kids. Hear from grand parents
that Zachary is doing well in school and playing baseball. Stacy has decided
that Mirrissa is going to see a doctor about her hyperactivity. Stacy had
sent them some pictures and they comment on how "sad" Zachary as he
plays baseball. Grandparents report that Stacy has a job at an office for
some time now and the kids have to go to daycare. (April- I find out from the
kids that Stacy has not worked for a long time) No health insurance claims have come through
for either of the kids. Kids
School Calendar Feb. Kids Breakfast
/ Lunch Menu |
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Mirrissa calls and leaves a voice mail. She
wants her ceramic piggy bank. She called me "David" instead of
"daddy". I am filled with concern for the kids and disgust for the
type of things Stacy is encouraging Mirrissa to say. But there is nothing I
can do. Kids
School Calendar March. Kids Breakfast
/ Lunch Menu |
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Stacy calls 30 times in one day regarding Jeep’s
financing. Mirrissa also calls leave another voice mail wanting the piggy
bank and calling me David. Next day she resumes the calls. I find time during
work and pick up tell her to stop calling. I ask her if her husband is ok
with her calling me so much. She said it was “none of his business” (poor
guy). She said that this website is “all lies”. Further by the website, I am
“in violation of shared parenting”. All I could do was laugh and shake my
head, disgusted at her ignorance and self absorption. No insurance claims for the kids have come
through. Calling for the kids’ insurance cards was just a ploy to call me on
Stacy’s part.
Takako and I decide to take our vacation in St Augustine Fl. It is
about an hour away from |
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DCF
contacts us regarding the kids visit with us in My
neighbor call Stacy from my phone to ask if the kids could speak with her
daughter Carey because they used to play together and the kids said they
wanted to talk to Carey when I saw them last. At
Stacy calls asking me to call her back to discuss my “intentions with
the kids”. I call her back. Stacy says that I am being an irresponsible
father. I say to her “no more than you”. Stacy replied “I take care of those
kids EVERY DAY!!” I sighed and said “Yeah, and it shows.” Stacy got very
agitated and repeated that she takes GOOD care of the kids, over and over
again. I guess she has a guilty conscience. I just said “yes, yes I can tell”.
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DCF
has now involved the Child Protection Team in their My
mom tells me that the kids are scheduled to be in
Zach’s Birthday, 12 years old. I call at |
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Kids fly to Mirrissa’s whining, constant lying, control
and manipulation tactics are very strong and has totally eclipsed her
personality. My parents, my friends
and even Uncle Billy has found it difficult to tolerate Mirrissa’s behavior
and chooses to avoid her. It is very difficult to have any sort of meaningful
interactions with her. While they are in DCF has concluded its investigation and has
declared that I am of no threat to the children. Off the record, the
investigator sympathized with me and said that the children will have a
difficult time ahead of them but they can’t do anything to help since it is
up to the mother to take them to counseling or other such assistance. |
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Mirrissa will probably be in 4th
grade at Mamie Agnes Jones Elementary School. This
school was given a grade of "A" by the Florida Department of Education
in 2005-2006. Zach will probably be in 6th grade at Baldwin
Middle-Senior High School This
school was given a grade of "C" by the Florida Department of
Education in 2005-2006. Mirrissa’s birthday, 10 years old. I call on
her birthday. Mirrissa picks up not knowing who is on the phone. As soon as
she realizes it is me, her happy cheerful tone immediately changes to single
word monotone responses. I also speak
to Zach and in stark contrast to the happy talkative kid last weekend; I
could barely pry two words out of him. His surgery is scheduled for October 4th.
I ask to speak to Allen to discuss visitation schedules. He comes on the line
and we discuss issues with the kids and Stacy at length. I hope we can keep
this line of communication open. |
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2006 September |
I have somewhat resumed visitation with the
kids. My worst fears have been
confirmed. Allen is beating Stacy. For all these years my rational to stay
with Stacy was the fact I was afraid that she will marry the first available
loser and he will abuse her and my kids. I have already expressed my concern
regarding this in my
letter to Stacy and Allen year and a half ago. Throughout my visits with the kids, I have
tried to avoid any conversations about their home life for fear of learning
about such things. Knowing about it would only make me feel angry and sad
that my children are living like that as well as not wanting to put them in a
difficult spot when their mother interrogates them upon return. However, the kids volunteered that Allen
had struck Stacy on more than one occasion and even the police had been
called. No choice but to make a report to the DCF. In terms of my time with the kids, it has been
exhausting but I have thoroughly enjoyed myself. The kids have blended
effortlessly into the routine of our weekends together and both have
expressed a strong desire to return each time. On their home front, things
are not as fun. So far each weekend has resulted in some emotional kind of
outburst. Stacy in her usual fashion will say anything that comes to her mind
to obstruct the visits. She shows no embarrassment or shame to yell and
scream in front of her neighbors at her new house. Allen has also joined in
and already threatened violence against me in front of the kids. The
exchanges are increasingly stressful for the kids. I have reported Allen’s
physical threats and abuse towards the kids to DCF. I have little faith in
them as they have already told me that they don’t have time to look too
deeply into reports unless there is a skull fracture or its equivalent. Their resources are just stretched too
tight. |
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2006 October |
Visitation interference throughout the month
of October. Stacy’s reason is that I filed two “false” reports on her to the
DCF one week from each other. DCF is
investigating the 2 cases but they are very busy and have not yet interviewed
the children. The case worker did not know about the case when I spoke to
her. Additionally, Stacy filed for an injunction of
domestic violence against me for harassing her. This petition was dismissed
in its entirety by the judge. Unfortunately, Stacy fails to see that my DCF
reports are not about her but about her husband’s inappropriate behavior. In
both cases, she is just as much a victim of Allen as are the kids. I saw
Stacy shake in anger when the judge made his decision. This
now adds up to 3 separate restraining orders being denied for her. In this
day and age, restraining orders are handed out like candy and require no
evidence whatsoever because judges are afraid NOT to give one out for fear
that they will be sued later when the woman ends up beaten to death by her
abusive husband. So it is interesting to note that 3 different judges in
three different cities denied her this. Her claims include the following: “Mr. Prather filed a
second false report to DCF against me within one week of each other.” “Mr. Prather takes unauthorized pictures of me
when he comes for visitation as well as of my husband, the kids, my house and
the neighbors walking up and down the street. I have no privacy whatsoever!” “For the past three years Mr. Prather has harassed me by calling police
and DCF, filing false reports. Mr. Prather continues to call me all the time
to harass me to see the children” “He has created a website which he dedicates to
our children but on reality he is using site to harass and bad mouth me. I
contacted SAO but they can’t do anything because “of freedom of speech”. “Mr.
Prather used to hit me ‘all the time’ but I don’t want to talk about it in
front of all these people (in court)”. One good thing that Stacy included in her
petition was to request the visitation exchanges take place at her neighbor’s
house. I have for years been trying to
get Stacy to agree to exchange the children in a public location to avoid her
inappropriate behavior. Even though
her motives for the suggestion stem from her claim that I am harassing her, I
don’t object to actions that are actually going to spare the kids from
further unpleasantness from their mother and step father. Unfortunately my lawyer advised me that
even if it is a “good thing” he cannot allow it because this is the wrong
court to do it in. He advised me that I should wait till Stacy files for it
in family court. |
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2006 November |
DCF investigation is now closed. They have verified
from both children and Allen that details of what I reported did indeed
happen. The case worker didn’t think Allen hitting Stacy or Allen threatening
me in front of the kids was a big deal and informed me that DCF was not going
to do anything about it. The main reason DCF is investigating this case is
because Stacy made a report against me. It was reported that I downloaded rap
music for Zach’s MP3 player that contained vulgar language. Case worker told
me that “Stacy does not tolerate that kind of language in her home.” Case worker was surprised that I was
unaware of this report. She confirmed that it was not a problem anymore
because Zach told her that he only listens to the beat and does not pay
attention to the words. Case worker said that it was the “mother’s
right to keep the children from their father while there is an open DCF
investigation”. Further, she confirmed that it continues to be the “right of
the mother “even when the investigation concerns the mother’s home and not
the father’s. Her supervisor wrote a
letter to this effect on behalf of Stacy so that Stacy will not have to let
the kids see me. When I requested a
copy of the letter, the case worker said “it was not DCF’s
responsibility to notify the other parent and it was up to the mother”. I asked if she knew that This means that as long as there is an “open”
investigation with the DCF, Stacy does not need to let the children visit
their father. So in other words, Stacy can continue to file new reports with
DCF each time a case is closed and continue this bull crap until both
children are 18. I have no doubt that Stacy will jump on this new found
weapon and use it indiscriminately. Although Stacy claimed that I filed “false”
reports to the DCF, all of my reports have been substantiated as true by the
DCF. In contrast, each and every report Stacy has filed have been “unsubstantiated”
including those that are for other people’s children. However it is clearly DCF’s
opinion that keeping the custodial mother “pacified” so that she is not
bothering them day and night is much more important than making sure the
children know their father. It will not matter how many “false” reports Stacy
makes to DCF, she can still do whatever she wants which is to abuse my kids
and deprive them of their father. She can even make a report about someone at
the kids’ school or neighbor abused the kids and she will have every “right”
to deny them contact with their father. At this point, I dare not write or call Stacy
for fear I will be accused of harassment. I have also been advised to never
meet her or her husband or other adult members of her family without a third
party present. I will just have to wait until Stacy gets tired of the current
line of bull shit of “you are butting into my business so I want you to stay
away from the kids” and decide pull one of those “you are a bad father
because you aren’t coming to see your children, they cried all night because
they though you were coming to get them” lines. Drama drama. Again, I must withdraw from my children’s
life. Sadly I will probably only get to see them for a few more times before
they are 18. But as hard as it is, I have to accept that Stacy will always be
Stacy and will never change the way I want her to be. And that I chose to
have kids with her so I only have myself to blame for my pain of missing my
kids. I hope that someone is out there that can ease my children from the
pain of not having their father in their lives. I just know its not going to be their
mother or step father. |
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2006 December |
Stacy continues to visit the website and write
comments in the guest book. In her ignorance and self-centeredness she
clearly stats that she holds no responsibility in the current situation. I have decided to block her access to the
website from work. There is nothing
more I need her to say to strengthen my position. |
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2007 January |
On January 3rd, Stacy leaves me a
voice mail. Angry that the kids’ insurance had been “cancelled”. She took
Zachary in for surgery and the hospital told her the insurance was cancelled
and she will now more than $300 in bills. She called my company’s HR person
and ranted how “I have a court order that says David can’t cancel the
insurance”. My company had decided to
change providers this year and was going with less coverage for higher
premiums. I decided to have Takako put me and the kids on her insurance. I mailed out the new insurance cards at the
beginning of the year. I was not told
of this upcoming surgery so I have no choice but to let Stacy work with the
new insurance to cover it. No claims,
not even prescription medicine claims have come through for the kids. Perhaps
Stacy is going to let Zach go without pain killers or antibiotics? Takako and I spend 2 weeks visiting my mom in |
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2007 February |
Both kids have had dental and vision insurance
for a long time now but no claims have gone through. No claims on the health
insurance either. Stacy’s visit to the website has decreased to
the occasional visits from the library or her friends’ house. It is all for the best. Less she obsesses
about my existence less opportunity for her to come up with new mind games
for the kids. |
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2007 March |
No word from the kids. I hear from the grand
parents that Zach wants to come visit the grandparents this summer but he
probably won’t be able to. Life goes on. Stacy has not accessed the site
directly from her work in about a month. She has found that she can use
Google to see the website cache. It seems to me she has other things occupying her. For the
kids I am glad. |
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2007 April |
It seems that Stacy and Allen have finally officially purchased their
house. I am glad for the kids that they will not be moving around every
year. Maybe they will get more support from their schools. The neighbors will
also know what it means to be Stacy’s friend and either turn out to be a good
friend to her or shut her out completely. I wonder if Stacy is going to make good on her promise to take the kids
to the dentist and get new glasses for Mirrissa. I also hear through the
grapevine that Stacy won’t use the kids health insurance because Takako is
paying for it. Who knows what her twisted mind is thinking. With her monthly
house payments near
$2000, who can afford to pay for the children’s needs especially without insurance. |
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2007 May |
Another month goes by without any word from
the kids. A little information from friends and family indicate that Allen
and Stacy are not getting along. I suspect that the only thing keeping Allen
in their marriage is the $1100 a month child support income that Stacy brings
in. I am pleasantly surprised that Stacy has still kept her job at the AC
service office. I think she is breaking
a new record for continued employment. I am glad for the kids that she has
work to focus her angers on and is not at home very much. Takako and I go see Shrek
3. We remember the good times we had with the kids. |
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2007 June |
Stacy calls requesting Takako’s insurance
information for the kids’ eye doctor. I call the Dr with the information. I
am glad that it seems like Mirrissa is getting new glasses for the first time
in two and a half years. I call Zach for his birthday he is 13 years
old. I leave a message. I try back later but no answer, no return call. |
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2007 July |
My mom speaks to the kids and find out that
Zach has gone to a summer camp. It is unclear what kind of camp. Mirrissa wants grandma to send her a horse
for her birthday. She also hears from
Zach that “daddy doesn’t love me because he doesn’t call me” According to
Zach, he hung on to Stacy’s cell phone all day on his birthday waiting for me
to call him but I never did. Stacy calls requesting Takako’s insurance
information. I tell her to email it to me and I will call the doctor and I
hang up. She calls back right away. Takako answers the phone and tells her
Dave is not available. Stacy starts yelling and whining about how this is
ridiculous and how she can’t even make a doctor’s appointment for the kids
and how she is going to have her attorney call us if this doesn’t stop!!!
Takako tells her that she doesn’t need to cry and be so upset and that if
Stacy will give her the doctor’s information she can call it in right away.
Stacy becomes very business like and gives the phone number and the contact name
at the doctor’s office. The
appointment was for a physical. |
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2007 August |
I call Mirrissa on her birthday and leave a
message she is 11 years old. Stacy does not call back. Takako and I are engaged. We fly to The good to come out of the call is that Stacy
did not object when my mom asked to see the kids when she flies down for our
wedding in January. |
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