Documentation May 2004
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Odd numbers are David,
Even numbers are Stacy Babysitter 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 Camp 1 2
3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 Karate 1 2
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13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 Stacy 1 2
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16 17 18 19 20 Mirrissa 1 2
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Stacy |
May support |
Stacy requested that Dave
bring over the kids to the Publix near
her house for drop off in the morning. Dave wrote her a check for the month of
May and gave it to her. Stacy called back twice and stated that until child
support is resolved in court, Dave will never see his kids
because they are hers. Dave said "No, you can't keep the kids".
Stacy hung up after some profanities. Dave called the kids to say good night
but the line was busy and he left a message but the kids never called back.
Mirrissa and Zach both put on their new clothes we bought and put up a fuss
when Dave pointed out that these were school clothes and they shouldn't be
wearing them on the week end. (Zach told Dave that mommy was taking them to
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From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: Tutor for Mirrissa MY THOUGHTS DO MAKE SENSE, BECAUSE FOR ONE IT IS GOOD FOR HER TO BE WITH KIDS HER OWN AGE, FOR SHE IS SO MUCH MORE IMMATURE THAN MOST KIDS HER AGE, AND IT HAS NOT HURT HER IN ANY WAY BECAUSE SHE HAS LEARNED ALOT OF THINGS. SO HOW YOU CAN SAY THAT MY THOUGHTS DONT MAKE ANY SENSE?? Maybe it is just me but please read this sentence again and let me know what it means. AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION YOU ARE THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO STOP THINKING EVERYTHING AFFECTS ME, WHEN BY NOT DISCUSSING THINGS TOGETHER AS PARENTS THAT IS WHAT AFFECTS OUR CHILDREN. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO START THINKING ABOUT THAT WHEN YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT NEEDS TO MAKE THE DECISSIONS WHERE IT CONCERNS OUR CHILDREN. What does it matter who comes up with the idea as long as our children get what they need from both of us. If you have any suggestion on what would be good for the kids in terms of school, after school activities, etc, you should get it arranged. I am willing to go along with it if I agree. If you don't have an alternative suggestion, I request that you don't complain about how it wasn't our joint decision. The only thing being "hurt" by getting Mirrissa a tutor seems to be your feelings because you feel left out. I would also appreciate it if you can face reality that we CANNOT do anything together because all we end up doing is fighting and nothing gets accomplished. How many years of arguing and trying to make it work do you need to realize this. AND I HAVE TOLD YOU TIME AND TIME AGAIN THAT THEY NEED TO HAVE ONE BABYSITTER NOT TWO. AND THEY WILL. Well if you want to get a live in nanny that moves with the kids I am all for it. Otherwise, I don't see how any one baby sitter can be available all the time. Most families have multiple back up babysitters. I hope you can see that your suggestion for one sitter is impractical. But I agree with your previous plan to have multiple 'preferred' sitters. If you choose some babysitters and find them good, I will be happy to use them whenever I need them. My priorities regarding a babysitter (after availability) are first, my opinion of the decency of the person, next price, then the amount of interaction they are willing to have with the kids. Let me know what you decide. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Reply Requested Importance: High Stacy, I request a response to all e-mails that I send you. Especially ones that involve schedule changes. On numerous occasions the schedule change has gone into effect with out confirmation. I will not do this anymore. Please make sure to reply to my e-mails and I will do the same. David |
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Stacy daytime, Dave
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Mirrissa had her first
tutoring session and it went very well. Zach wore his nice outfit to school
and everybody complemented him on it. He found out that the play was actually
tomorrow and that he had made a mistake yesterday. Mirrissa did not have her
new clothes on but had a similar colored shirt and cropped jeans. Dave asked
her what happened and she said that she wanted to wear them but mommy told
her that it doesn't fit. Kids did not have their karate uniforms with them so
they went to Stacy's house to pick it up. Dave asked for Mirrissa's clothes
back and Stacy said that Mirrissa didn't want to wear them,
she also added that they didn't fit and couldn't believe that Dave even had
her try them on at the store. Dave said he will take it back to the store. At
karate, kids received a carnation flower and a mothers day card. Mirrissa
wanted to go give it to her mom so we drove to her house. I waited in the car
and Dave waited on the driveway while, the kids went up to the house to give
their gifts to Stacy. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Schedule for this week May 3rd. I will pick up the kids tomorrow and watch them until you
get off of work at Stacy, I want you to understand that I need more notice than this to make this work with my schedule. When I asked you if you were planning to have me watch the kids on Wednesday and Friday, you said that you didn’t know because you were waiting for your babysitter to get back to you. If you are allowing your babysitter to say ‘maybe’ up to the last minute, that is between you and your baby sitter, but I cannot do my job and watch the kids on a ‘maybe’. This is exactly why most families have multiple babysitters that they call down the list until they get a firm promise. So for the future, please make sure that you tell me by Friday, if you are going to need me to watch the kids the following week so I can be the one to watch them. I don’t see how this could be difficult because you don’t have to pay me to baby sit. All I ask you is to give me more notice. Also, if
you are picking the kids up at Please let me know what your plans are for this month so we can do what will work for the kids. David |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Mirrissa going to 2nd grade Stacy, I spoke with Mrs. Hine today and she said that Mirrissa will be going to 2nd grade next year. Mrs. Hine said that Mirrissa’s reading and writing was up to speed and she is good to go for second grade. Although she is below grade level on math and Mrs. Hine has some concerns, she feels that we are helping her by spending extra time with her and by having a tutor. So in all, Mrs. Hine was quite reassuring about Mirrissa not having to repeat first grade. As for the tutoring session today, the teacher said Mirrissa was putting a lot of effort into the work and found her enjoyable to work with. I am keeping my fingers crossed that this will continue.
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Dave picked up the kids and
ate lunch. While Zach did his homework, Mirrissa played by herself in her
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Stacy |
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Kids were not dropped off in
the morning. Dave called the kids at night and Stacy answered. She said that
"you calling the DCF is back firing on you because they
said they really didn't have much to go on anyway" insinuating that DCF
now has more to go on against Dave. She also said that she got served today
with papers regarding Mirrissa's custody jurisdiction move to |
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Kids had not done their homework yesterday,
so had to spend extra time catching up. Zach apologized to Dave for not
getting his homework done the day before. Zach brought out his origami crane
and said "oh poor little baby crane, all his brothers and sisters are
gone..." When I asked why? Zach said "Trashed,
they are in the trash, mommy threw them away even though when I asked her she
lied and said she didn't touch them, I know they are in the trash". I
asked, why do you suppose she did that? Zach said "well that's because
mommy hates you". I said "I am sorry I don't know what to do about
it". Zach didn't say anything. Mirrissa said she didn't want to go to karate today but when it became time to go she said "well
FINE!! I will go!!!". After karate, Mirrissa and Zach were all smiles
and they both got an award for good effort in class. We went grocery
shopping, came home and had fried chicken. Kids hurried to shower and get
ready for bed so we could play a game of Shrek. Kids worked out how they were
going to take turns being in charge of "cards" unlike previous
nights where they argued and whined about it. |
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Mirrissa wore one of her
new outfits to school. Stacy left a message on Dave’s phone saying she will drop
off the kids in the morning. Dave called her back to speak to the kids, he
asked if she was still planning to have breakfast with the kids between 8 and
11 in the morning like she had requested previously. She said no, she will
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Schedule change request Stacy, I would like to ask for a schedule change for end of this month. I have several large projects which need to be finished around Memorial Day. It will be crunch time at work and I will probably have to stay and work late every day. I was hoping you will be able to take the kids during the week of May 25th. If you get a babysitter on my days, I will be happy to reimburse you for the cost. As an exchange, I would like to take the kids the following week starting June 1st, Tuesday. I am thinking of using some vacation days that week and taking the kids somewhere.
Please let me know if this will work for you. David. |
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Stacy called the previous
night telling Dave that she will drop off the kids in the morning. They came
in and immediately fell asleep.Kids showed up in their pajamas and didn't
have any shoes on. At 9 we woke up and went to karate. During karate,
Mirrissa said her back hurt from falling out of the tree house yesterday, and
went up to the instructor to ask if she could call mommy. Dave went up and
spoke to her and she sat down to watch the class. When the class started
playing dodge ball, Mirrissa turned and asked if she could join in for the
game. Dave told her to ask the instructor and she joined in for the last part
of class. Kids got signed up for karate camp. Afterwards we went to the mall
to buy new shoes for the kids and for the kids to pick out a mother's day
gift for tomorrow. Mirrissa was so excited and loved all the
shoes in the store. She particularly liked a white pair of sandals. We also
got her tennis shoes and a causal sandals. Zach got tennis shoes at one
store, then found some sandals in a different store. Kids bought some
earrings and other jewelry for mother's day. We spent 4 hours at the mall
looking for stuff. We decided to go to the beach after we eat snacks at the
house. After we had oreo ice-cream cake, we put on our swimming suits. |
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Mirrissa and I were
putting sun block on our legs when Stacy showed up
unexpectedly at the door. She walked in and stood by the couch and didn't say
a word. She had the kids shoes in her hand. She looked at the boxes of new
shoes laying out on the living room floor and grunted as she threw the kids
shoes on to the floor. I hollered "Dave, Stacy's here!" but Dave
didn’t hear me. Mirrissa decided to
give her her mother’s day gift. David walked into the living room and saw her
and gestured, "what are you doing here?". Stacy then pulled
Mirrissa outside to the porch and sat down with her. Zach also followed her
out. Dave went out and asked Stacy that she should be calling before showing
up at his place. Stacy became mad and yelled. "Oh so I need to call
before bringing over my kids shoes!!! I will be sure to remember
that!!!" I said, "yes you should, you are bothering us by showing
up unexpectedly". Stacy said "Oh so now I am bothering you, how
could you be bothered". I pointed out that she can't decided for me if I
am bothered, only I can and I am telling her she is bothering us. Stacy said
What are you doing with my kids anyway. As I walked past her, she rushed over
to Zach and forced a kiss on his cheek saying "I love
you, you know I will come pick you up at two tomorrow to take you away from
this terrible place". Zach made a face and tried to pull away. |
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When Dave asked Mirrissa if the kids at
school or the teachers liked her new outfit at school. Mirrissa
said she can't remember anything good that anybody said. The kids had told
her that she shouldn't ever wear a skirt to school. We found out that the girls
name was Barbara. After prompting, she remembered that her teacher had
complimented her on her new outfit. Zach said that 'mommy hated the new
clothes'. When asked why, he said that she told Mirrissa that it was 'way to
dressy'. Mirrissa said she won't be remembering anything good about it. Mirrissa has a pink shirt for Stacy that
matches her own shirt for mothers day. Dave asked her if she could tell mommy
that she picked it out rather than Daddy because otherwise, mommy won't like
it. Mirrissa said "yeah, she will throw it away". Zach leaves message for Stacy. |
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David daytime, Stacy
overnight |
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Stacy was an hour late
picking up the kids. |
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Mon |
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Dave called the kids to
say good night. Zach said he would miss him because he won't
see him for two weeks. Dave asked to speak to Stacy but she hung up on him.
He called back immediately
and found out that Stacy intends to not let him see the kids except for every
other weekend as stated on the WA state visitation schedule. Her primary
issue was that Takako should have no business talking back to her. |
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Dave went to pick up the
kids but Stacy had already gotten them. When Dave called Stacy she said that
she has no intention of letting the kids see Dave until the weekend when he is
'scheduled' to have them. DCF came for a visit and explained
to us what their role was in custody issues. DCF lady said she will recommend
to Stacy for the kids to be enrolled in a program as well as have a case
worker assigned. We were especially disturbed that the case worker told us
that all we can do is 'make most of the time you have with your kids' and
'hope that they will understand when they grow older'. Dave called Mr Rice
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Missing Emails Importance: High Here are the emails you say you have not received. Please reply to this email to confirm you have received it. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: New Schedule and Agreement Importance: High Below is a description of the new schedule and agreement you have requested based off of the 1997 WA State order. Please let me know if I missed anything. Children will
reside with me every other weekend starting with the weekend of May 21st .
Weekends will start at I will also have the children from I will provide transportation for the children and will pick them up and drop them off at the designated times. I would like you to have them ready to leave when I arrive. I will do my best to arrive exactly on time but in case of an emergency, please have the children wait up to 30 minutes past the pick up time. I will pay child support in the amount of $154 per month starting the month of June. This amount is based on the WA order. I checked on the Jeep loan and found that I had not paid them for May as I promised. I have sent them payment yesterday for the month of May. This will be the last payment I will make on the Jeep. I have also cancelled your car insurance as of end of May so please obtain car insurance for yourself. I will also be waiting to receive payment from you in the amount of $201.50 for the children’s health insurance starting June. ($240 minus my obligation of $38.50) If you are able to obtain comparable health insurance through your employer for a lower cost please let me know. Children’s school lunches are food, so it is included in the child support so please make your own arrangements. I will continue to pay for tutoring and karate as those are not mentioned in the order. As you have already mentioned, the order from WA was
created in 1997 and many things are inaccurate and do not reflect current
state of affairs. I completely agree that child support amount is
insufficient based on our larger combined current income. I also completely
disagree with you that you should grant me visitation only every other
weekend when the children have already lived with me for the past years and
more recently, spent 50% of their time with me. I am totally disgusted that
you reworked the schedule and implemented it without informing me of the
change. However, I will follow your requested schedule and child support plan
until a new one in Please note that I chose to stop giving you my gift of
$700 dollars a month and the extra amenities because I no longer feel it was
helping me have my 50% of the time with the kids. I have had enough of the arguments,
deviation and interruption of the schedule.
I believe that I clearly told you my intent of stopping this extra
assistance in March. I am sure your neighbor will testify to the yelling
match we had in front of your house. Later that week, you requested that I
pay for the Jeep one more month, I agreed. I continued to give you my gift of
$700 and additional money for food and gas for the month of April. So I do
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In regard to the child support calculations, I have also told you that it is possible I made some incorrect calculations so please go over the numbers and present them to me. (Again, if the courts decide this was incorrect, back child support will be awarded so you really don’t have anything to worry about.) Although you have not provided me with any new calculations, you did bring up the point that I should not be automatically designating child support to a car payment. I was incorrect in doing this for the month of May so I will be sure to provide you with cash starting next month. You can then decide how it can be best spent for the children.
You say the children are being hurt by my ‘lack of child support’. If for some reason you are unable to provide food, clothing or any other needs for the children, I will be happy to invite them over for breakfast, lunch and dinner at my house at any time. I will be happy to take them shopping for anything they need at my own expense. Children are always welcome to come use my bathroom facilities and entertainment facilities at my house. I am sure you love our children and will not let them go without something just because you don’t want to talk to me.
I am also available as a free babysitter, that is, provided that you give me notice. If there are any child care expenses incurred, please provide receipts for them and I can reimburse you for them. However, I will not agree to any childcare costs incurred on days where I was available to be your first choice babysitter. This means that I will not pay for child care incurred on the days I was scheduled to have them based on our previous schedule.
I hope you see that each action you initiate has consequences of fairness. If you are willing to allow me to see the kids 50% of the time (go back to your previous schedule or some other schedule) and work out a revised child support amount, I am willing to retroactively pay the difference to you for May. Either way, I recommend that you obtain legal advice from an attorney so we don’t have to discuss what is ‘right, deserving and fair’. Below are some links to self help law information and legal aid for affordable legal advice. Please let my attorney know as soon as you retain a lawyer.
http://www.flcourts.org/ Look under “ Central Florida
Legal Services, Inc. —
http://www.circuit7.org/Family%20Court/Family%20SelfWeb%20Page.htm Self-Help Programs in the Seventh Circuit For information or questions regarding matters related to self-help in this circuit, contact:
(386) 248-8182
Suite B-250 (386) 248-8182 |
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Dave went to pick up the
kids from school but Stacy had already taken them. He asked about the tutor
and found out that Stacy had rescheduled it for Friday. Mirrissa's
tutoring will be on Monday, Thursday and Friday. He also found out from the
teachers that Stacy had told the school she now had a court order that
prevented Dave from picking up the kids. Dave informed them of what was
happening and assured them that he didn't plan to pick up the kids without
her consent. Teacher said if something does happen, they will ask to get a
copy of the papers. Dave went over to
Stacy's house to drop off karate uniforms but nobody was home. Then we went
to Mr. Rice's office to pay more retainer and sign the financial affidavit
and see if we could pick up the letter he is going to draft to Stacy. The
letter wasn't ready so we did the other things and left. |
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Dave went to Stacy's place
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 13, 2004 To: Subject: Re: New Schedule and Agreement Dave at this point and time i really dont care if you missed anything or not. You have done everything you have set out to do which is to destroy me and everything in my life. After your little escapade last evening at my job, thanks to you i am in jeopardy of losing my job. And you knew that last night when i asked you to leave several times. As far as me getting legal counsil i can not afford it, and i have already been to leagal aide 3 times. So what ever it is you are going to do just do it and get it over with so that i can try to live some kind of normal life. Because i can not take any more of you and your girlfriends harrasment. And as for the jeep i really dont care anymore. If it means that much to you, I will clean my belongings out of it and you can come and get it this weekend. All i want is for you to leave me alone. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 13, 2004 To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: New Schedule and Agreement I will not rest till I get 50% of my time with our kids. Unless you allow me uninteruppted access to our kids 50% of the time, you can expect me to do what ever I need to do to get this. I have laveshed you with money, accomodated your schedule requests, offered everything I have to this end but you have continued to come between our kids and I. I am willing to spend all my money, all my time and efforts toward getting a fixed schedule set in stone. Even now, if you agree to our original schedule for the kids, previous arrangements can be reinstated. Last night I tried to contact you and the kids and went to your house and found it empty. I was thinking the worst. All I wanted was to be able to say goodnight to the kids. You said you didn't know the name or the phone number or the location of your babysitter. I can't in good concince let somebody you know nothing about care for my kids. You could have told me that you will call me when you get home, etc. All I did was insist you give me the phone number. Yet you chose to throw things around and cause a disturbance rather than agree to let me contact my kids. I feel anything that happens to you is your own doing. As for my vist to your work, do you have any idea what you have been doing to me all these years? In comparison, that was nothing. Please compare that with your numerous visits and calls to my place of work. If your job is jepordized, I am sorry, but this was the first and only time I have ever visited you at your work and as requested I will never go there again. That is unlike you who pushed it until I got fired. I guess you don't have much equity in your employment because CCI actually fought to keep me despite your inappropirate actions. Perhaps you will have more common sense regarding such things in the future. Well if you have been to legal aid, you should know what to expect. I will not tolerate any more arguments based on misinformation. I will continue with what I have to do until I get my time with the kids. I will come pick up the Jeep on Saturday when I come get the kids. I will not discuss the Jeep from that point on. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 13, 2004 To: Subject: Re: RE: New Schedule and Agreement Great then if you are coming to pick the jeep up on saturday, i will expect the truck in return. It is not fair that you leave me with no vehicle for our children. And what do you mean the previous agreement will be reinstated?? And i did not get you fired you gave two week notice, or atleast that is what you told me. And things that happened at your job were because of choices you made by sleeping with employees at the workplace, which was against company policy. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 13, 2004 To: Subject: Re: RE: New Schedule and Agreement > And for your information, i did know where the kids were at, and who they were with. They are very good people, and take very good care of the kids. They own the business right across the street from me. I told you last night that i was in a hurry to get to work and forgot the phone number on the table, and i also told you had i had the number with me i would have had no problems giving it to you. I also told you that last night when i asked you to leave the second time you came in i was already warned that if this kept up tonight i would be fired and you didnt seem to care at all you just continued to stand there. Knowing that is the only way that i have to pay my bills. i dont bother you at work nor do i call your work you should give me the common courtesy that i give you. Nor do i barely even call your house accept to say good night to our children. And i also have no problems with you doing the same. But i am also not going to put up with your nasty comments or your belittling towards me.> |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 13, 2004 To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: New Schedule and Agreement As for the children, I will personally be their driver. Just tell me when and where they need to go and I will do so. If you need the truck for your own purposes, I will be happy to trade it with the Jeep. I see that you are still going refuse to let me have the kids 50% of the time. That is my only condition and you are choosing to not do what is best for the kids, to have access to both parents equally. It seems to me that you would rather continue this type of behavior than do anything to "try to live some kind of normal life" despite the fact you say all you want "is for you to leave me alone". I will not "leave you alone" as long as you are preventing me from seeing the kids 50% of the time. It is both of our responsibility to make sure the kids is with a good person. You may be sure John and Mary are good people but you didn't explain this to me nor did you offer to let me speak to my kids. I would feel negligent as a parent not knowing who the kids are with at all times. Since you are not helping, I need to do everything possible to do my part. You say I am trying to "destroy me and everything in my life". When have I ever made any unreasonable demands? I only ask for time with the kids and I don't think that is unreasonable. If you have talked with legal aid three times, you would have been told if my request is unreasonable and if I am being irresponsible. And if that should be the case, I don't understand why they can't represent you. Having no legal representation is not an excuse to continue accusing me of things that have not been proven in court. I don't care what you do with your life as long as you do not depend on me financially, and keep out of my time with the kids. I got fired from my "manager" position when you showed up at work in February. I got fired from my "programmer (salaried)" when you showed up at work in June. CCI allowed me to stay as an "hourly data processor" because they knew I had to provide for my kids on the condition that I don't stay longer than a couple of months. I did not get fired for having a relationship with Takako. Takako was not even warned nor was I reprimanded for having a relationship with her. So what part of that is not getting fired because of you? But like I said, I will never go to Racetrac again so you have nothing to worry about because I have better impulse control than you. Please make sure to read carefully before making accusations. Thanks |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 13, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Per our phone conversation 4/13 Stacy, per our phone call, I hope I made it clear that the only thing I want is my 50% of the time with the kids. What you call harassment is me trying to make sure I am part of their lives. I will not stop trying to persuade you to allow me contact with my kids. I hope you can see that I have no interest in any of your success or failure in life. Our relationship is over and all I care about is the kids. Perhaps you should learn about the cup being half full. I am not trying to get “sole custody’ of the kids nor terminate your parental rights. I have paid more than the required child support all of the months since January including your relocation funds. I get the impression you think money grows on trees. I suggest you find your own tree because I am only willing to pay for the children. I have made all possible accommodations for your school and job schedule. Do you think that my job is any less demanding than yours? That I don’t have to pay bills when you do? Until this past week, I have had to care for the kids just as much as you so having to care for kids is not a good excuse. As I recall, you used to object to my long hours and not helping you around the house. Now that you have to pay for your half of bills and care for your half of the children, I don’t see why you think you are entitled to more consideration because you have to work for a living same as everybody else. Take a moment to see how good you have it for a change. If you are going to agree to let me have the kids 50% of the time, whatever schedule you want, let me know. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Friday, May 14, 2004 To: Subject: Re: Per our phone conversation 4/13 Bite Me!!!! |
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Stacy |
Dave went to see the kids
after school and saw Mirrissa briefly and talked to Zach while she had her tutoring
lesson. Kids both looked scruffy and tired. Mirrissa's hair was uncombed and
her dress was wrinkled. Zach had dark circles under his eys
and was too tired to say much. He said that mommy was taking them to work in
the morning to sleep in the back of the store on the floor because her shift
starts at 5am. In an e-mail Stacy said
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STACY |
David daytime |
Dave’s birthday, went to
pick up kids at 6am, kids weren't ready. They were sleeping on the couch with
the TV on, the volume could be heard from through the window. Kids walked out
in their pajamas. Stacy came out and told Dave that Mirrissa has a fever and
she needs Tylenol later that day. Dave asked about the Jeep but Stacy said
she hasn't had time to clean it out so she will trade it later. Kids changed their clothes and put shoes on
at Dave's then went to Wal-Mart. Kids had not bathed nor brushed their teeth
the previous night so Dave made them shower and clean up. Both kids said they
didn't want to go to karate. When the time came, Zach put on his uniform but Mirrissa didn't want to go. Zach wanted to negotiate going to
karate in exchange for going to the beach later. At Karate, Mirrissa
complained that she wanted to go to "Ninja Night", a special event
held at karate. Dave said she has to attend class in order to go but she
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After karate, Dave told
them if they didn't want to go they don't have to but to stop complaining
about it and karate was not to please Daddy or to be negotiated with. Kids
thought about it and said they wanted to continue. Dave reminded that Mommy
may say negative things about it but to let her know they want to go and ask
for her help. Lou, the landlord was
celebrating his birthday and there was a big party at the apartment.
Lou's kids were there and they played.
Later, Dave and the kids went to the park to play. When it was almost time to
leave, kids called Stacy to
see if they could stay later, she agreed to 30 minutes. Kids played some more
and it was time to go. Dave exchanged the truck for the Jeep and came
home. Stacy called soon after complaining
about the truck's transmission, she put the kids on the phone and they begged
daddy to give the Jeep back to them and how they didn't want to ride in the
truck. Later Dave called to talk to
the kids, they had gone out to eat pizza and they were fine. Later in the
evening, more e-mails were exchanged and arguments over phone calls ensued. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, May 15, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: 2003 Tax return.
Stacy, I understand that you have claimed both children on your 2003 tax return. I am afraid that this is going to cost me $2700 additional in owed taxes plus a late fee for re-filling. Since I was the primary bread winner last year and you and the kids resided in my residence, I would like to be able to claim head of house hold and the kids as dependents. I would appreciate it if you could file a correction on your taxes and allow me to claim them for last year. Should you lose any child tax credit, I will be happy to reimburse you for the amount. For future years, we will have the courts decide who can claim the children for tax purposes. I believe the primary motivation of you claiming the children as your dependents is your control issue and wanting to state on record that they are 'yours'. I understand that these motivations are very strong for you and you will not hesitate hurt the children, yourself much less me in the process, I hope you can see the financial consequences of this action. I would like to point out to you that claiming the children with IRS will prove nothing in terms of your status as their mother/care giver. IRS tax returns are not used to 'prove' you are supporting the children and it will not serve as leverage for custody or parental rights. It will only serve to demonstrate your lack of common sense and misguided efforts to selfishly own the kids. Based on my personal experience with you, I am quite sure your need to claim 'ownership' of the children will be so powerful that you will fail to see the practical cash value of this proposition. However, if you have some sense in you, I am sure you will be gracious enough to modify your tax return. I will call to get a "yes" or "no" from you. I do not need an explanation of why, just a simple yes or no.
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, May 15, 2004 To: Subject: Re: 2003 Tax return. > First of all i dont have a control issue, you are the one that has to seem to be in control of everything, and if you dont get your own way then it is all blamed on me. Number two: I am not hurting me, our children or much less you. You want to talk about hurt in the last year and a half, Look at yourself and all the damage you have caused, but i really dont care about that any more i am just trying to move on with my life and take care of our children. You know i have already admitted to what i have done in the past and i am not that person any more and i wont explain myself anymore to you, it is your problem that you cant open your eyes and see what kind of person i have become. I dont have some deep dark vendetta against you like you seem to think that i do. You keep saying how i have called you all these names, but i have not. I have better things to do with my time. And if i allow you to claim the children this year on your taxes i will have to pay back all the money that i was paid and i can not afford that. I cant even afford an attourney to fight you in court. And how does it benefit me, you wont even pay me child support, you have renigged on every single promise you have made since you walked out on us in lakeland, so i am sorry that i cannot trust anything or any promise that comes out of your mouth. I surely hope that for your sake and for your happiness in the future you think about how you are going to treat someone that you say you care about. Even to this day as much hurt you have caused me all i want is for you to be happy, and whether or not you ever believe it i really did love you and care about you with all of my heart. I just hope that some day we can atleast be civil for the sake of our children and nothing more. |
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Sun |
STACY |
Stacy |
We spent the day getting
service for the Jeep and cleaning it up. Stacy called at 8:45pm to ask if
it would be ok with Dave if she dropped the kids off in the morning because
she has to go to work at 6am 'since he is the one that seems
to be concerned about the kids getting enough sleep'. Dave said yes. When he
asked to speak to the kids, she said that they were already in bed at 8pm as
she claimed the previous night. This came out of the previous night's
argument when Stacy claimed that the kids are 'always' in bed by 8pm which is
untrue. However, this came about, Dave is glad they are going to bed and hour
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Sunday, May 16, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Promises You said I went back on my promises to you. As I see it this goes both ways. You say you have kept all your promises to me. Perhaps you have kept most of your promises. But you have not kept the most important promise of all. The only thing I asked of you is to let me see the kids 50% of the time with no interruptions, no arguments and no tantrums from you. But I am sure you know that. You said that getting a lawyer was not fair because I can pay for it and you can’t. Well tough shit. You play unfairly all the time. You are not letting me see the kids knowing that that it is the only thing I really care about and the only thing that I will actually fight for. Is that fair? Well I know you are playing this card because you are not beneath using the kids to get what you want in life and you know I won’t forcibly take the kids to visit with me. And worst of all, some how you feel justified in doing so because you are their “mother”. I am playing my cards because that is what I have to bargain to get my time with the kids.
Either way, neither one of us are “victims” in this and we are both guilty of fighting over our differences. I am sure you are tired of me not understanding you and I am just as tired of not being understood. But what we need to do is realize that it is not about how your feelings were hurt and what a tough time you having emotionally and financially, etc. because of what I did to you. Nor is it about my anger towards you. We have to face that you and I cannot agree on anything and it is hurting the kids. You and I have both lost sight of what we really need to do for the kids.
That is why I have a lawyer to represent me and we can have the courts decide what is in the best interests of the children. That is also why I called DCF to have them keep an eye out for the kids so that neither you nor I can get caught up in the fighting so much that we hurt the kids. It is not about who the better parent is or who deserves the kids more. The problem as I see it is the fact that we cannot work out a parenting plan to meet our kids needs. On Friday I saw that Zach was tired with dark circles under his eyes and Mirrissa’s hair uncombed her dress wrinkled. I did NOT see this as proof that you are a bad parent but that WE have failed work out the best parenting schedule for the kids. We have BOTH failed our children because we couldn’t agree on a schedule where we can give them a good night’s sleep and where a parent can be available to make sure they are clean and looking their best. I am NOT saying you are a bad parent because the kids didn’t sleep enough or weren’t clean enough. You are working a full time job and going to school and taking care of the kids. I don’t blame you that some things may have gone undone. Same will happen if I had to do all that. Kids are supposed to be raised by two parents who share the responsibility. The main mistake that I see in all this is that you didn’t let me help out when you were overworked and that I didn’t offer my help in a way that you could accept it. All this proves is that we are unable to do what is best for the kids because of the issues between us and we need somebody else to do it for us.
So, no I am not going to call off the lawyer and I am not going to stop trying to have my time with the kids. You will do what you are going to do and I will do what I have to do. In all this, DCF will make sure the kids are too terribly neglected and if either one of us is doing something we will be held accountable.
My condition will never change; I want time with the kids 50% of the time. Stacy, I ask you once again. Name your price.
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Sunday, May 16, 2004 To: Subject: Re: Promises > I am not using our children to get what i want in life nor have i ever. They are not toys and i am tired of you saying that i use them and hurt them and you. You are always talking about what i suposibly do to you and the kids lets talk about what you do. This is what i am talking about for harrassment on your part. I have told you time and time again that i just want to get along for the kids sake. And you cant even do that. You go behind my back and discuss things with everyone else accept for the one person you should be discussing it with, which is me. You are just trying to make your self all of a sudden look like Daddy of the year. You sit there and make all these acusations against me and tell me that you dont go by here say, but that is exactly what you are doing, you sit on the telephone last night and say how the neighbors tell you that i slept late and woke up and didnt know where my kids were at, that is not true at all and you know it. You say that they have told you that i leave the kids alone, that is not true either, but yet you wont tell me who is saying stuff behind my back. You say that i shouldnt have to defend myself if it is not true. Well i am tired of people acusing me of doing things that i have not done. I have had to defend myself my whole life and i am tired of having to do it, you of all people should know how that feels, because of the life you had also. And when we first met you told me that you would never do that to me and much less do that to our kids but you are already doing that. I am not keeping you from being a part of thier life, all i wanted is for your girlfriend to leave me alone and to mind her own business where it does not concern her. Or need i remind you what i went through the last time you decided to pull this bullshit on me up in washington state when your girlfriend kept calling from California, and i was called white trailer park trash, and that she would make a much better mother for our children then i. or how about when i was in oregon and she told me that i needed to go back to spokane where i belonged. Or how about the threats she made to me about coming down to spokane and taking you and our children back to california with her, I was called a bitch and whore over the telephone, I had to have my phone number changed 3 times because of her. And you did nothing to stop it then just like now you do nothing to tell her to shut her mouth to me. You say she knows how to speak better than you maybe it is time in your life that you need to quit hiding behind everyone and speak to me yourself. because just because you dont want to be a family with all four of us, does not mean that i should have to put up with all the bull shit, that is not fair to me and it is definatly not good for our children. You sit and say how it does not affect them but that is where you are very wrong.. They are the ones that it affects the most. |
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Mon |
STACY |
David |
Stacy dropped off the kids
in the morning. Kids were perky and wanted to play. Mirrissa had a new pink
outfit on. It was in the style of running shorts and running tank top. Dave did
not think it was appropriate for school. Also the armpit hole was quite big
and Mirrissa's chest could be seen when she leaned over. Dave told Mirrissa
she should only wear that shirt if she wore her training bra underneath.
Mirrissa decided to wear one of the outfits Dave had gotten for her. Dave
dropped by school at 2pm to see the kids before tutoring. When Mirrissa
was done with her tutor, Stacy drove up so Dave joined her to speak to the
tutor. Stacy noticed that Mirrissa was
wearing a different outfit and demanded Dave to return the original outfit.
Dave paid the tutor and talked to her about the summer and suggested that
Zach also be included in the tutoring. Stacy said that Zach was doing all A's
in his classes. Dave said he can always be doing better. Stacy said "you
are determined to push Mirrissa too hard aren't you?" The tutor showed
Stacy and Dave what Mirrissa was learning. It seemed to Dave that Stacy did
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Stacy asked Dave if he could pay
$150 to repair the truck. Dave agreed. She also asked that he update the
registration on the truck and change its title to her name only. Dave agreed.
Stacy asked for Dave to come pick her and the kids up to go to the vehicle
registration place. Dave agreed. As they drove, Dave asked her what she
decided about the taxes but Stacy said she only wants to get the vehicle
registration done and she didn't want to talk about anything else. Zach asked
if he could stay with Daddy tonight. Mirrissa joined in and started a chorus.
Stacy said 'shut up'. When Dave reached Stacy's house, he asked "well,
how come the kids can't stay with me?" Stacy said "I didn't say NO!,
I never deny the kids anything they want to do. I asked them if they wanted
to go to karate camp and they said no" Dave asked what
about Mirrissa's camp that grandma already paid for, she has mentioned that
she wants to go". Stacy said "I think the kids should stay in one camp all summer instead of moving from camp to
camp". Kids stayed with Dave
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STACY |
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5/19/04 |
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STACY |
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5/20/04 |
Thu |
STACY |
David |
Kids were not dropped off
in the morning. Dave went to see the kids at school around 2:15pm. Kids were
still there and said Stacy had not shown up. Dave thought today was tutoring
day but found out that Stacy had changed the tutoring schedule
and they don’t' have tutoring today. Dave knew Stacy gets off of work at 3pm
so he wanted to take the kids home with him but the school wouldn't let him
take them because Stacy told them that Dave was not allowed to pick the kids
up. Dave gave a copy of the lawyers letter to the school for the kids files.
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Stacy showed up some time
past 3pm and walked up to Dave. Yesterday, the kids asked Stacy if they could
stay with Daddy tonight. Stacy said she didn't understand why Dave couldn't
have called her at work today to ask if the kids could stay with him tonight.
Dave reminded her that he was not supposed to contact her at work. Dave asked
if she will let the school know that he can pick up the kids too but she
refused. Stacy said that she spoke to Mirrissa's tutor and found out that she
was going on vacation in June so she won't be tutoring until July. Stacy also
said the tutor 'agreed with her that Mirrissa needs a break from school work
and shouldn't be pushed too hard'. Then Dave went in to speak with Ruth with
the kids and when he returned to the car, Stacys' truck was still in the
parking lot. Dave found out that Mirrissa's homework for this week had not been completed. Kids
went to karate, they had not been to karate since the last time Dave took
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 20, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: I just wanted to confirm that I will be there to pick the
kids up tomorrow night at 6pm. and will return them to you at 6pm Sunday
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 20, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Taxes Stacy, Also you never said “Yes” or “No” to the issues about the taxes. Please reply. If you do not reply I will assume a “No” and I already told you what I think about that. David |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 20, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Mirrissa's Interim Report Importance: High Stacy, Mrs. Hine has been asking for Mirrissa’s Interim report for a month or more now. I have asked you also to return it to school. So will you please take the report with you tomorrow and give it to Mrs. Hine so we don’t have to see any more notes in Mirrissa’s folder saying “Please Return the Interim Report Signed”. Many Thanks, David |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Friday, May 21, 2004 To: david_p@bellsouth.net Subject: Re: Yes you may come and pick the kids up at 6 tonight, accept
i may be here a little later than that because Zachary has a
birthday party until 6 tonight. In which case you may keep them an hour extra
on Sunday (7). And as for Mirrissa's Interim report i signed it a while back
and put it in Mirrissa's folder so what Mirrissa did with it at school, So
Mrs. Hine will have to ask Mirrissa where it is at, Because i do not have it.
I signed all of the papers you gave me that day. Infact zachary took his in
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Fri |
STACY, DAVID AT 6PM |
David from 7pm |
Dave got off work late and
as he was driving towards Stacy's house, Stacy' drove up behind him with the kids.
They drove to Dave's place and exchanged kids. They had gone to a birthday
party at Zach's friends house. Kids met up with the neigbors nephews and saw
the boa snake. Then went to Ninja night at karate and got back after 11:30pm.
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Sat |
DAVID |
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Dave went to register kids
for day camp at Pine Trail. Kids heard about the field trips scheduled and
were excited to go. We went to Takako's house and played in our swim suits
while Dave washed the Jeep. |
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5/23/04 |
Sun |
DAVID, STACY AT 6PM |
David till 7 pm |
Mirrissa
wanted to go to church so she left early and went by herself. Zach watched
the cartoon network. We left Takako's house early so there will be time for
Mirrissa to get a hair cut. We went to Super Cuts. Mirrissa was extremely happy
with her haircut and said that she had wanted it short because 'no tangles'
but then said that she wasn't 'ready to face Mommy having a fit'. Mirrissa wanted to go to CiCi's pizza to
use her certificate she got from school. She wanted to invite Stacy so she
called her but Stacy declined saying she won't go if Takako
is going. Then Mirrissa told her about getting her hair cut and Stacy hung up
on Mirrissa after saying "you WHAT?!". Kids were scared that Stacy
will show up early at Dave's house so we all hurried to CiCi's pizza. Stacy
did not show up at CiCi's pizza even though Dave thought she definitely would
to confront him. Dave is glad because he thinks that she is now more conscientious
of her own behavior knowing DCF will be watching. Afterwards they were dropped off at Stacy's
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Dave called Mrs. Breter the tutor to
confirm the summer schedule, she suggested that they all meet tomorrow at 3
to discuss the schedule for summer. When Dave called to tell Stacy, she
thought it was another one of Dave's 'going behind her back' things and after
saying she couldn't believe he had Mirrissa's hair cut up to her 'fucking
ear' she hung up on him. Zach called back and said goodnight
to Dave. He said that he will see daddy tomorrow morning. Dave said, 'oh is
your mom going to drop you off in the morning?". Zach said yes, then listening
to what Stacy was saying, said that tomorrow they will be dropped off but on
Tuesday, they will have a babysitter. Dave asked to speak to Stacy so he can
discuss this with her in person and not through Zach. Zach tried to hand the
phone over but Stacy could be heard in the background saying 'I don't want to
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5/24/04 |
Mon |
STACY |
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Kids were dropped off in
the morning at 6. Mirrissa said her hair wouldn't 'stay down'.
Dave combed it and helped her put in her new hair clips. Dave and Stacy met
with Mrs. Breter to discuss tutoring schedule for Mirrissa. Stacy did not
want to consider any new schedule and
walked out. Stacy told Dave that 'it took me two years to grow Mirrissa's
hair out that long' and if Dave was going to cut it she was going to get
Zach's ears pierced. When Dave asked when he could discuss the summer
schedule, Stacy said to call her tonight. Dave called to tell the kids good
night, Mirrissa was already in bed. Zach came to the phone and said that he
will see Dave tomorrow morning. Dave said 'oh is your mom dropping you off'.
Dave tried calling Stacy back after the kids went to sleep but she didn't
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5/25/04 |
Tue |
STACY |
last day of school |
Kids were dropped off in
the morning. Zach had his left ear pierced and Mirrissa had
her hair permed. When Takako asked how Zach got that, he said that mommy said
'if daddy can cut Mirrissa’s hair she can get his ears pierced' Dave had
previously told Zach that it was one of the few things he agreed with mommy
that he is not to have any body part pierced until his is eighteen. Takako
asked if Mirrissa likes her hair, she shook her head 'no'. Zach said
'Mirrissa you told mommy you loved your hair!' he also said 'mommy got
Mirrissa's hair premed because she looked like a boy'. |
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5/26/04 |
Wed |
STACY |
Stacy no work |
Dave calls kids. Discussion with Stacy on summer
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5/27/04 |
Thu |
STACY |
day care |
-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, May 27, 2004 To: David_P@bellsouth.net Subject: Baby sitter Her name is Michelle Rowling, her address is 921 State ave. It is about 4 houses away from the park, It is light blue almost white, It is the one that has the chain link fence all around the yard. But dont try to go in the gate because the dog will not let you in cause it doesnt know you. If you meet me over there at 2:30 i will introduce her to you. |
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5/28/04 |
Fri |
STACY |
day care |
Stacy invited Dave to come
to the day care at 2:30 but he had to work. Zach called Dave
to say good night. Zach said he missed his dad. Mirrissa said she hated her
curls. Mirrissa initial did not talk to Dave but called back. It was obvious
from her tone that she was having a tantrum about her comb and something and
Dave could here Stacy in the back ground saying "you will talk to your
dad and tell him you love him!!" Dave received copy of the objection to
domestication of the WA order. |
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5/29/04 |
Sat |
STACY |
Stacy was home |
Dave called to ask if it
would be OK to come by to give kids a kiss and a snack. Stacy put Zach on the
phone and instructed him to tell Dave that he couldn't come now because mommy
was selling her old… something and Stacy stopped him. He corrected himself
saying that there is company. Later in
the day, when Dave and Takako was at downtown beach area of Daytona, Zach
called to say it would be ok if he came to see them. Zach said mommy told him
to tell Dave that he better not bring anybody over with him. Dave purchased
smoothies to take with him. I stayed in the car parked across the street from
Stacy's duplex. Kids came out and came around the Jeep to see what their
treat was. I could see Stacy peeking from the window. Stacy upon seeing that
I was in the car, came out and called Zach and Mirrissa back. As
she took the kids back with her she yelled at Dave that Takako is not allowed
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, May 29, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: FW: summer program Stacy, here is the link to the summer camp at Pine Trail. -----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, April 22, 2004 To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' http://volusia.org/parks/summer-rec.htm Is this the program you are referring to? If not, please give me a web link or a phone number. But assuming this is the one you are talking about, it sounds like a good program. Which week were you thinking of sending them to this day camp? Below are some other day camps I was looking into for the kids this summer. We can probably send the kids to a combination of these camps. http://www.ormondbeach.org/leisure/spring04/camps-trips.pdf http://daytonasurfingschool.com/programs.htm http://www.moas.org/event_1_2004summer_school.html http://echotourism.com/msc/camp.htm The Ormond Beach YMCA has a day camp. (The website doesn't say anything but I have some flyers.) 'Karate for Kids' also has a day camp for one week. Please review and let me know |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, May 29, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Apology. Hello Stacy I am writing today from Dave’s e-mail to apologize to you for the other day when you came to drop the kids’ shoes off. When you showed up the first thing that came to my head was that you were coming to take the kids back from Dave and that he will be upset again. That was totally untrue and even if it was, it was not my place to speak to you. I understand your concern that the kids do not need to be exposed to any of that. Actually right after you left, I spoke to Dave and the kids that I probably shouldn’t have said anything and that I thought I behaved very poorly. I also pointed out that that they (the kids) already know better than to talk back to their mommy. The kids nodded their heads gravely and agreed. Anyway, for all future interactions, I will make sure to just slip away so that you can conduct your business with Dave or the kids as you need to. Dave also told me that you were very civil and did not call me any names during your conversation about this with him even though you were very angry. I appreciate that and I will also promise you that I will never call you names or say anything bad about you in the presence of the kids. Takako. |
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STACY |
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In the evening when Dave called to tell the kids good
night, Zach invited him over to do fire crackers. Dave went over to Stacy's
place and they all did fire works with their neighbor Tracy and her two boys.
Dave asked what the plan was for tomorrow but Stacy avoided the question and
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Sunday, May 30, 2004 To: david_p@bellsouth.net Subject: Re: Apology.(Takako) Takako: I think you need to apologise about alot of your actions. But that is in the past. And you are right about that, you have no business getting in the middle of any of it at all because it does not concern you in the least. And i have never taken the kids from Dave. Yes i came and got the kids when i found out that Dave was at work and he left them with you, that is because i never agreed for you to watch my children. You have only heard the things that Dave has told you, But i can guarantee he has not said a word about any of things that he has pulled on me. But for your information i did not steal my kids, they are my kids and if i do not want them to be in your care with out Dave i have every right to come and get them. And while we are on the subject and Dave talked to you about it, I have a few things to say to you. One I do not want you making fun of my kids any more when they are throwing a tantrum, that is what kids do when they dont get thier own way, but one thing that they dont need is someone making fun of them while they are doing that, beccause then the one who is acting childish is you. Number two: There will be no more name calling to my children from you, that was uncalled for and not neccesary in the least. My son has enough anger issues without you adding to it. Number three: You have no right to say anything bad about me at all whether it be to the kids or to Dave, You and Dave are the ones that have caused all the heartache and trauma in the last two years not me. There are things that i have said and i will not apologise for any of it, because i have every right to say what i have said. One of these days you will be in the same position as me and you will know exactly how it feels. I will accept your apology this one time, but you both say that i am the one who does not have any self control nor do i know how to act out in public, or i dont have any common sense, But i think you both need to look at yourselves on those issues. And also on the last issue. You said i was bothering you that day, There is something that you need to accept and that is the fact that i am not going anywhere. I moved down here because that is what Wanted, I dont come over there to talk to you or to even look at you, I come over there to see my kids and or to talk to Dave. So if i bother you so much then that is your problem and that is something that you need to deal with on your own time not on my childrens time with thier dad. |
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5/31/04 |
Mon |
DAVID 6AM TO 6PM |
MEMORIAL DAY |
Stacy called the previous
night around 11 pm regarding some complaints on the people who are renting Dave's house in Lakeland. At the end of
the conversation, she
added that the kids will be with Dave tomorrow. Dave asked why the change in
heart, she did not reply. Stacy dropped the kids at Dave's at 5:45 am before
going to work. She said she will come to pick them up after work, then she
called around 11 am to say Dave could keep the kids until 6pm. Kids reported
that mommy's new boyfriend is Tim from Spokane with whom she had an affair
with when she was living with Dave. Kids also reported that Stacy was selling
almost all of her furniture in the house. Suspicion is growing that Stacy is
planning to move to WA state. When Dave dropped them off, kids asked Stacy if
they could spend the night with Dave tonight but Stacy said no. Dave tried to find out what the plan
was for tomorrow but Stacy said she didn't know. It seems that she does not
have work tomorrow so she is contemplating whether to share the kids or not. |