Documentation June 2004

 

date

day

Scheduled

School

Details

Odd numbers are David, Even numbers are Stacy

   Babysitter 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

   Camp 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

   Karate 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

   Stacy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

   Mirrissa 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

   Zach 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

   Police 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

   PAS 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

  

6/1/04

Tue

STACY

Dave vacation

Stacy’s day off from work and

Kids with Stacy

Dave called Stacy in the morning to ask if he could see the kids. She said she didn't know and put the kids on the phone. They were excited that they were going to go to Nova community park where there is a skating ramp.  Around 5 in the evening, Dave called Stacy to see if she is willing to let them spend the night or if he could see them tomorrow. Stacy argued but finally agreed to let him have the kids tomorrow. Dave called back asking if it would be ok to bring over the June support check and see the kids for a few minutes. She called back sometime past seven and threatened that he should not bring anybody else over and he could see the kids in the yard but that was as far as it can go. When he showed up, Stacy said a few warnings about staying in the yard and went inside. Kids said that they went over to their friends’ house at 8 in the morning but the neigbors were upset that they came over so early and told them their friend cannot play all day because of it. They did not go to the park as they had hoped and they were not over at their friends’ house when Stacy said that was the reason they couldn't sleep over at daddy's place.

 

 

 

 

Dave and Takako ran errands. Mirrissa's eye glasses got stepped on so we took it to get it fixed. Mirrissa set it down on the first step on the stairs and Dave had stepped on it.  We went to HH police department to pick up the most recent police report. We went to IRS to discuss claiming dependents. The recommended Dave to file by paper and then there will be an audit to straighten things out. We stopped by the 'child care referral' baby sitter Michelle, and looked around her place. Michelle clearly said she was just a daycare place with no affiliation with DCF other than to get her license. There were no evaluations requested nor did she do anything with the DCF. Stacy was obtaining assistance from United child care services and receiving a 12 dollar discount on the weekly rate. Contrary to Stacy's claim, Michelle said the kids were free to show up when needed and that she was always available. Michelle offered to drop them off to school but said she would not be able to pick them up from school because Pine Trail was too far when she had other schools she needed to pick kids up from. Stacy had told Michelle that they would be going to Holly Hill elementary next year and that Dave can visit the kids but cannot pick them up from day care.

 

 

 

 

 We visited the day camp at Pine Trail and found it to be lacking adult supervision. There we spoke to Ruth in great length about the situation and how we could do better for the kids. Stacy had come in often to speak to Ruth. Ruth said she would talk about everything with her even though the kids were right there with her in the room. Stacy told Ruth that she went to legal aid five or six times even though she told Dave three times. Ruth suspected legal aid didn't take her case because she had not case or that she hadn't actually gone to see them. Ruth said that she didn't want to talk to Stacy and she would usually just get up and leave. Ruth said that Stacy herself had told her about the support Dave is providing for her and the kids and she didn't know why Stacy would bite the hand that feeds her. Ruth had good things to say about Zach and Mirrissa. She also mentioned how her son had difficulty with an ex. Ruth did not think the Volusia county day camp at Pine Trail would be suitable for Mirrissa because she needs close supervision. She recommended the 'extended day care' which is also held at the school. She said her grand daughter will attend. Ruth thought it was funny that Stacy was objecting to the domestication of the orders which she insisted on so strongly.

6/2/04

Wed

STACY

Dave vacation

Kids were dropped off around 7am. We took them to get physicals for camp. Then had breakfast at McDonalds. We returned home and watched Lord of the Rings until it was time for Dave’s conference call with Mr. Rice. He was unavailable but we got an OK to send Mirrissa to camp. We left for camp and got Mirrissa situated. Dave returned to prepare for court. Takako took Zach to Karate. After court, Stacy drove up to karate and grabbed Zach to rush off with him as he objected. Dave showed up and saw her pushing Zach around. Police showed up and Zach told them he wanted to be with his Dad and they let him go with Dave. Stacy stormed off and followed Takako's car to the exit all the while, cursing and shouting at Takako across cars. Dave, Zach and Takako returned home to chill out. Later we went to CiCi's pizza and decided to rent a movie for the night. Takako's car got a flat tire on the way home from Blockbusters. We watched Starship Troopers 2.

 

 

 

 

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Sent: Wednesday, June 02, 2004 5:17 PM

To: david_p@bellsouth.net

Subject: YMCA Camp Winona's online community account details(powered by Bunk1)

 

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6/3/04

Thu

STACY

Dave vacation

It was a rainy day and Zach played with the neigbors nephews all day. Their grandmother Joann was there watching them all over the porch. Kids fished, skateboarded and played miniature golf. Dave tried calling Stacy a couple of times but there was no answer. Stacy told the judge yesterday that she has an appointment with her lawyer at 3pm. At 4:30pm, she showed up unexpectedly and tried to take Zach home with her and the boy refused. Stacy stormed off yelling that she is going to call the police. When Dave received a call from the police, they informed Dave that she had told the police the children are in her custody. Dave corrected the police. Joann witnessed the transaction and made her opinions clear. Dave asked her to prepare a statement on what she saw and she agreed. An officer showed up with the papers to fill out. After the police incident, Stacy called to speak to Zach and quizzed him on what was 'being said over there'. The kids, neighbors and their nephews went to CiCi's Pizza for dinner.

6/4/04

Fri

STACY, DAVID AT 6PM

Dave vacation

Stacy called to ask where Zach was. Dave said he went shopping with the neighbors. Although she didn't mention a visit, Stacy showed up at the house shortly after and demanded to know where Zach was. Dave repeated his answer. She mentioned that she knew about the PI and all the lies her former neighbors were telling on her. Dave said he would hope those things are lies. She repeated the same accusations and complaints. She stormed off yelling that she is going home and calling the lawyer and Dave will be hearing from him. After she got into the truck, she yelled out that she was going to call DCF and that he will be hearing from them too. Zach left a message for Stacy to tell her good night.

6/5/04

Sat

DAVID

David

After picking Mirrissa up from camp, Dave and the kids went to Takako's house. Carey from across the street came over and spent the night. Kids played till late into the evening. Zach and Mirrissa called Stacy and spoke to her on the phone to say good night.

6/6/04

Sun

DAVID, STACY AT 6PM

as scheduled

Kids continued to play with Carey and we all went to McDonald's for breakfast. Around 2:30 in the afternoon, we all headed back to Daytona. We stopped at the Dollar Tree to pick up some stuff for Zach that Mirrissa had broken over the weekend. When we got back to the house, Dave had Zach call Stacy and ask if they should have dinner with her or not. She did not reply till 5:30 so we were already eating pizza when Stacy called back to say "kids are eating with me".  Mirrissa sifted through her photographs and pulled out the ones that Mommy would throw away. (the ones with Takako in them). She also took off her camp necklace that has one bead for each camp she attends. She spoke of it proudly to Dave and how she gets one for each year she comes to camp. When Dave dropped them off, Stacy said NO they are not going to karate, they are going to the babysitters. When Dave called to say goodnight to the kids, Stacy refused and accused him that he had such "nerve calling here when he kept the kids from her five days". David tried to call several additional times but Stacy said that she was on the phone and refused to let Dave speak to the kids.

6/7/04

Mon

STACY

Stacy

Dave called Michelle in the morning and found out that Stacy forbid her from taking the kids to Karate Camp. Stacy said the kids were in the shower when Dave called at a 8:30 to speak to the kids. He called back in ten minutes, voice mail picked up. He tried until 10:30 but Stacy never picked up.

6/8/04

Tue

STACY

Stacy

Dave and Takako went to speak to Michelle to update her on the situation. Michelle said Stacy told her, the kids were taken away to foster care previously. Stacy said that Dave is responsible for payment even though she accused Dave for meddling with her babysitter and forbid him from paying Michelle. Stacy told Michelle that Dave was withholding the kids and that is why they won't be at Michelle's last week. Dave called several times to speak to the kids. When Stacy finally called back, she accused him of harassing her every 15 minutes. Zach talked to Dave but Mirrissa refused saying that she was watching Beauty and the Beast on the new DVD player Stacy had purchased. Stacy later agreed to Karate camp for the kids and said she will speak to Michelle tomorrow. She also said Dave "owed Michelle for last week". Dave told her he already paid her.

6/9/04

Wed

STACY

Stacy

Stacy did not tell Michelle about Karate camp. When Michelle contacted Stacy, Stacy asked to ask the kids if they wanted to go. Kids shook their heads no. Michelle called Dave to let him know kids didn't want to go. Stacy called and laughed and said "see kids didn't want to go anyway". Dave called Zach to say it is OK if he doesn't want to go just to let him know. When Dave asked to speak to Mirrissa, she said she didn't want to talk to daddy.  Michelle called shortly after to say that Zach called his mom to ask if he could go. But Stacy said "I don't know". Michelle decided not to take them today but told the kids she will be happy to take them anywhere they wanted. Michelle said Zach started crying saying he wanted to go to karate. Michelle mentioned Mirrissa's interest in twirling camp. Takako told her that Dave wanted Mirrissa in it but Stacy refused and if Michelle can convince Stacy, it would be great. Takako called Michelle and asked if it would be alright to bring the children a watermelon to eat. Michelle said yes. Takako went over to the babysitters at 12pm and spent about 30 minutes there cutting watermelon and socializing with Michelle and the kids. Later that day Stacy called Dave saying that she has made it so that "Takako can't go over there anymore". Stacy arranged with Michelle that if I come over, Michelle will call her at work.

6/10/04

Thu

STACY

Stacy

Kids went to the babysitter and Stacy told Michelle that they were not allowed to go to Karate camp. Dave tried to reach the kids between 8:30 and 10 but Stacy did not pick up the phone.

6/11/04

Fri

STACY

Stacy

Kid did not got to karate camp. Dave went to Takako's house after work. Dave called to speak to the kids but Stacy was on the phone. At 9:30pm Zach called Dave back. He was very upset that Mommy told him he could not visit with Daddy. Dave said that he had tried to call them but couldn't reach them. Zach said he knew  because Stacy has them listen to the phone ring and tells them they are not allowed to answer it because it is from Daddy. As he was talking, Stacy said he needed to get off the phone because he was showing 'an attitude'. Zach said he wanted to stay on the phone with daddy because he misses him. Stacy continued to order him to get off the phone and scream over the phone to Dave. Dave finally told Zach he should say goodbye and go like his mom is telling him to do. Mirrissa told Zach toat  she did not want to talk to Daddy. Dave asked Zach to ask her why but she did not give a reason.

6/12/04

Sat

STACY

Stacy

Dave called the kids left voice mail. Shortly afterwards Zach called back. He said that grandma in Kennewick (Dolly) called  and they talked to her. He reported that Dolly told him that to not worry about Mommy and Daddy, just be friends with them. Mirrissa came on the phone and reported the same thing saying that she didn't want to be friends with Mommy and Daddy and she wanted them as mommy and daddy. She said "I didn't like what grandma said to me". Dave was confused to its meaning. Dave had to cut the phone call short because his cell phone was running out of battery

6/13/04

Sun

STACY

Stacy

Kids left a message on Dave's house phone and cell phone to say goodnight. Dave's cell phone's battery was dead and couldn't receive calls. They also said they will be able to see daddy some time this week. Dave spoke with his mom. she said she called the kids at Stacy's. She spoke with Zach only because Mirrissa didn't want to talk to her. Stacy also talked to her at length about her troubles including Mirrissa's camp. Stacy said Dave wouldn't talk to her anymore which was one of the many problems.

6/14/04

Mon

STACY

Stacy

Dave called Stacy to ask if she is taking the kids to karate practice. She said she didn't have their uniforms so she can't take them. Dave said he can drop them off or she can come here to get it. They agreed to meet at Karate before practice time. Shortly after, Mirrissa called saying she didn't want to go to karate. Dave reminded her of their discussion about continuing karate and she grudgingly agreed to go. Zach got on the phone and said he didn't want to go today. When asked if he wants to quit he said he didn't want to go today only. Eventually he was persuaded to go. Dave met up with the kids before karate and they had a good practice session. Mr Halpin asked Stacy to speak to him after class but he was unavailable after 20 minutes of waiting so Stacy left with the kids saying she will bring them to practice on Wednesday and she can talk to Mr. Halpin then. Stacy agreed to let the kids see Dave on Wednesday. When Dave said he will be over at 8:30pm, she was surprised but when he explained that it was his long day at work, she agreed. Stacy had a brand new outfit consisting of a shirt and flouncy mini skirt. Mirrissa showed Dave her new sandals. Zach told Dave he got new toys and 10 dollars as a reward for his excellent report card which had only one B and rest were A's. Stacy also volunteered that the kids will call him at 8:30 to say good night. However this did not happen and kids did not call until Dave called at 9 and left a message. Stacy cut the conversation before Zach was ready to hang-up.

6/15/04

Tue

STACY

Stacy

Stacy called Dave at work and at home. When Dave got off of work, he called her back. Stacy had an issue with the child support check amount for the month of June. Stacy said Dave did not give her money to repair the truck nor money for the car insurance as he promised. Dave reminded her that it was included in the check. Stacy said he is supposed to pay her 154 per child according to the WA orders. When Dave pointed out that the document doesn't say that, she told him that he would not be seeing the kids on Wednesday. Dave called later to ask to speak to the kids. Shortly after he was able to speak to both children.

6/16/04

Wed

STACY

David at 8:30

Court date to domesticate the WA order. Stacy was there with her lawyer. After court, she volunteered that the kids will see him that night. She also volunteered that Zach will go to his camp. Dave picked up the kids at 8:30pm. Kids had their baths but not their dinner so we cooked pizza. Zach didn't want to eat his pizza because it had pepperoni and sausage on it. Mirrissa said she wanted tuna. We went to the store to pick up some things and the kids decided they wanted TV dinners. We stayed up late watching a movie.

6/17/04

Thu

STACY

Stacy

Dave dropped off the kids at the babysitters. When Dave asked if he could have the kids tonight but Stacy said no.

6/18/04

Fri

STACY, DAVID AT 6PM

 

Dave went to pickup the kids after work at 8:30pm. Dave had planned to go to Takako's house that night but remembered that the kids had karate practice tomorrow morning. They had not gone to practice since Monday even though Stacy assured him she was going to take them. Dave decided to go to Takako's house tomorrow after karate practice.

6/19/04

Sat

DAVID

 

Kids went to karate practice then we went to Takako's house. When we got there, we decided to go to her friends house to swim in their pool. We spent all after noon swimming. Laurel and Mike interacted with the kids and the kids said they had lots of fun. We came home around 8pm. Dave called Carey to see if she could play but she and her family were out to the movies. Zach had pizza and Mirrissa wanted tuna fish sandwich for dinner. We had no bread so Dave went to the store to get some. When he returned Mirrissa said she didn't want tuna if it didn't have pickles in it. Dave told her she couldn't have a TV dinner instead and she whined for a while. Kids called their mom but Stacy was not home so they left a message.

 

 

 

 

Mirrissa told Takako that mommy told her if somebody hits her, she needs to hit them back. When Takako said, hmm I don't agree with that.. Mirrissa said she didn't agree with it either and that you should tell somebody if somebody hits you. Takako said, well you should probably find out why that other person hit you first before doing anything. Later Mirrissa and I were reading a book. When she read the passage written "I wanted to tickle the gold fish but Mom said "Leave the goldfish alone", she said instead, "Leave the fucking goldfish alone". Realizing what she said, she covered her mouth and whispered the last part. The book was about a boy who was mad because he couldn't do anything he wanted to. Mirrissa was convinced that the boy was going to get a spanking and yelled at at each turn and seemed surprised when the story did not turn that way. It made me remember the time she dropped an egg on the floor and cried "I'm sorry it was an accident" and cowered on the floor as if she was going to be hit.

6/20/04

Sun

DAVID, STACY AT 6PM

 

Father's day. Takako took the kids to Wal-Mart to pick  out a gift while Dave slept. They chose a shaved ice maker and we bought some syrup. Kids called Stacy to ask if they could spend the night with Dave but Stacy said no. Dave delivered the kids as scheduled.

6/21/04

Mon

STACY

 

Dave called at 8:35 to speak to the kids. Stacy picked up and said they were already in bed. Dave asked Stacy when he can see the kids next. Stacy said she didn't know. Dave asked that he be allowed to see the kids more because every other weekend is not enough. Stacy said she has to work two weeks straight and she is very tired. Dave offered to help with the kids and she agreed to let him watch the kids over the weekend while she works. She said that she didn't want to talk about it now and hung up.

6/22/04

Tue

STACY

 

Dave called the kids at 8:30pm. Stacy did not have work and the kids stayed home and played Nintendo all day. Zach said he beat the Mario Brothers game to completion. Dave asked to speak to Stacy but when she got on the phone she hung up. Dave left a message requesting her to call him back regarding tutoring for Mirrissa and to ask if he could drive the kids to karate practice since she had been too busy to do so.

6/23/04

Wed

STACY

 

Dave called after he got off of work at 2pm and called Stacy but she didn't answer the phone. He thought maybe they were still at the baby sitters but they weren't there either. He left a message saying that if Stacy can't take the kids to karate, he will be happy to drive them there and back for her. Stacy didn't call back. Dave called at 8:20 to speak to the kids. He called again at 8:30, 8:45 and last at 9pm.. Dave left a message asking about the tutoring that is supposed to start this week. Stacy called back later and Dave spoke to the kids briefly. Stacy said she didn't know the number for the tutor. He asked Stacy what the schedule was going to be but she said she was stressed out and tired and didn't want to talk about it. When Dave offered to help with the kids she said that she never gets stressed out from the kids so his help was not needed. Dave asked if she was saying that minimum visitation of every other weekend is enough, and that was why she wasn't giving him a straight answer. She said that she never kept the kids from Dave. They agreed to speak on the phone on Friday at 4pm to discuss the schedule.

6/24/04

Thu

STACY

 

Dolly called Dave asking for Stacy's phone number so she could wish Zach happy birthday. Dolly said a couple of weeks ago, Mirrissa called her. Doly felt that Stacy put her up to it because Mirrissa whined and whined about how she misses Dolly and when will she be able to visit. Mirrissa would not change the subject and after a while, Dolly asked to speak with Stacy. They talked for a while and Dolly got angry at Stacy for lying to her about various things including camp. So Dolly asked to speak to Zach and asked him if he wanted to go to camp. Zach said yes. Dolly talked to him a while and ended the conversation. Dave called at 8:30 sharp but Stacy didn't pick up the phone.

6/25/04

Fri

STACY

 

Stacy was not home when Dave called her at the appointed time 4pm. When he finally got hold of her, she said she will write an e-mail about it. Stacy said she will call Mrs. Breter on Monday.

6/26/04

Sat

STACY

Dave babysat while Stacy worked

Stacy dropped off the kids. Kids went back to sleep until Karate. After karate, they went to rent movies and went to Wal-Mart to get more syrup for the shaved ice maker. At 2:30 Stacy came to pick them up.

6/27/04

Sun

STACY

Dave babysat while Stacy worked

Stacy packed some things for Zach to take to camp and dropped both of them off in the morning. Dave spent the morning going over the camp details and making sure he had everything in the checklist. When it was time, they left in the Jeep and met Stacy halfway down the street. Stacy bought Zach a camera and two rolls of film when Zach asked her if she had bought the film for the camera he already had like she promised. At first she said she was going to bring it over tomorrow but then she changed her mind and bought him a new camera at the camp store. Dave reminded Stacy about the bunk notes and the ten dollars she has in the account. Stacy said she never got anything like that. Dave asked if Mirrissa could spend the night but Stacy said no. Dave asked if she had a schedule in mind, so Stacy said Tuesday and Wednesday and that she had already written an e-mail about it. She also accused him for the unreliability of e-mails and implied that he was somehow responsible for her not getting e-mails. Dave did not get any e-mail even though he checked it before he left. So Dave left alone after Zach was settled in to his cabin.

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Sunday, June 27, 2004 4:10 PM

To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net)

Subject: Your Email

Importance: High

 

It seem your email has slipped through the cracks. Will you please send it again?

6/28/04

Mon

STACY

Stacy

Dave left a message with Stacy at 4:30 to see if she needed him to drive Mirrissa to Karate. After repeated attempts, Stacy answered her phone at 5:30. Dave asked why Mirrissa did not get to go to Karate, Stacy said she just got home and has a splitting headache. Dave asked her to let him know so he can take Mirrissa so that kids don't keep missing appointments.. Stacy got mad and said he needed to stop telling her what to do and hung up. Dave called at 8:30 to speak to Mirrissa but Stacy did not pick up nor did she allow Mirrissa to call back.

 

 

 

 

Stacy previously said Dave will have the kids on Tuesday and Wednesday but she failed to e-mail or tell him specifically what that meant. Later in the evening, Stacy called back, said Mirrissa was already in bed. Dave asked her what the plan was for tomorrow. Stacy said he could come pick up Mirrissa after work and Stacy will pick Mirrissa up in the morning to take her to the babysitter. Stacy asked if he would get off of work at six. Dave said he didn't know because tomorrow was his long day at work. She sarcastically said "Well I kind of need to know Dave". She went on to say, "well if its at eight, you better just forget about it because I have to get her ready for bed". Dave after thinking his work schedule over, decided to take the day off the next day to spend the day with Mirrissa. He called Stacy back to let her know of his plans and asked her if she would bring Mirrissa over on her way to work. Stacy said that Mirrissa needs to go to the babysitter and he can have her after work and refused to let him have Mirrissa any earlier. Dave said that he will be happy to speak to Michelle so that Stacy does not lose her financial assistance. Stacy grew angry and said he has no business contacting Michelle because it was HER babysitter and to quit meddling with her life. Dave called Michelle the baby sitter to ask what the situation was regarding the financial aid and attendance record for Stacy and said that he would be coming over with Stacy in the morning to pick up Mirrissa. Michelle welcomed this and said that as long as the absences were excused it didn't matter.

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Monday, June 28, 2004 10:50 PM

To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net)

Subject: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

I have yet to receive any email from you about the schedule or anything else.

I gather from our conversations that I can have the kids on Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday of each week plus every other weekend.

I will expect you to drop the kids off to me on your way to work on Tuesday morning and I will deliver the kids to the babysitter on Friday morning. This schedule will continue until the kids’ school is in session.

We can work on the school schedule when it gets closer.

I would appreciate a reply but I will take no reply as a yes.

 

 David

6/29/04

Tue

STACY

 

Dave met up with Stacy at Michelle’s but Stacy refused to let Mirrissa go with Dave. Her reason was that Mirrissa needs to go to the babysitter. Stacy indicated that she was tired of the harassment she is receiving from Dave and that Mirrissa was hers and hers only. Stacy said that she can do anything she wanted with Mirrissa because she is her mother and Dave has no right to take her from the babysitter. Stacy calmly indicated that if he persisted, she was going to make sure that the kids won't have to suffer through this and she was going to take action. Dave clearly thought this indicated that Stacy was going to take the kids away and hide or that she is going to harm them so she does not have to share them with him. Dave asked if Stacy thinks that it would be better for Mirrissa to be at the babysitter rather than with her father. Stacy said yes and indicated that Mirrissa would be better served without her father because of the harassment Stacy has to endure.

 

 

 

 

Met with Mr. Halpin at Karate. He said that he spoke to the kids and Stacy for about 20 minutes. He reported that Stacy said the kids didn't want to go to karate and that is why they haven't been attending. He said he emphasized the importance for everybody in the family to be on the same page and how goals can be achieved. We thanked him for his time and left. Mirrissa called while we were speaking to Mr. Halpin proximately 9:15pm. She asked why hasn't Dave come to pick her up. Dave told her that he was there to pick her up in the morning but Stacy said no and he doesn’t want to upset Stacy anymore. Stacy came on the phone and accused him of being a liar and claimed she had told him he could come pick up Mirrissa after work. After profanities and name calling, Stacy gave the phone back to Mirrissa. Mirrissa whined for a while and as Dave was answering her question, she hung up on Dave. 

 

 

 

 

When Dave returned home, there were five voice messages from Mirrissa asking when Dave was coming to pick her up whether it was going to be at six or eight. Mirrissa said that if it turns out to be eight, she will already be in bed.

Decision was made to back off from trying to work out a schedule with Stacy. Dave thinks Stacy is too unstable to be negotiated with and he is afraid that she will really hurt the kids or take them away if he persists. An e-mail to that effect was sent to Stacy. Dave decides to record all conversations with Stacy and let her know from the start that all conversations will be recorded.

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Tuesday, June 29, 2004 7:59 PM

To: david_p@bellsouth.net

Subject: Re: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

> i dont know where you got thursday from i didnt say anything about

> thursday. And the kids will go to the daycare provider everyday.

 

-----Original Message-----

From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Tuesday, June 29, 2004 9:54 PM

To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net'

Subject: RE: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

Whatever you say. Just let me know when you want me to have the kids. Otherwise I will just pick them up according to the visitation schedule from WA. I just want you to stay calm and in control of yourself. I have decided to abandon my efforts to work out a schedule with you for now. I am going to back off and wait for the courts to decide. I will call once every night at 8:30pm to talk to the kids. If they can answer fine, if not I will call back the next night. Please have them call me if it is convenient for you. I don't see how we can communicate on anything and I think that our efforts are hurting the kids more than helping them. And I don't want the kids to hear anything more about our differences. I would never forgive myself if something happened to the kids. I am sure you agree. 

Dave.

6/30/04

Wed

STACY

 

Mirrissa left three voice mails asking when Daddy will come pick her up. Stacy wrote an e-mail asking the same thing. Dave wrote back asking if he could have Mirrissa tomorrow after work. Stacy never replied about it. She called to say that she had the day off but Mirrissa wanted to go to the babysitter and she took her there. Stacy was happy that Mirrissa had a friend. Stacy insisted that day care was best for the children over day camp.

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Wednesday, June 30, 2004 7:48 AM

To: david_p@bellsouth.net

Subject: Re: RE: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

> Dave, I am trying to communicate with you, but i am really tired of you telling me that i need to be an responsible adult. I have been nothing but a responsible adult and parent. I told you that you could pick Mirrissa up after you got off of work yesterday. And that you can have them on Tuesday and Wednesday until school starts and then you will also have them on your scheduled weekend. But for you to tell Mirrissa last night that i told you that you couldnt come and get her and that you could only talk to her on the phone that is just wrong. I never said that you couldnt come and get her. She sat here from 6:30pm until 8:30pm last night calling you on the house phone and your cell phone trying to get a hold of you, to ask you where you were at and why you were not here to pick her up. She cried her self to sleep last night because she wanted to come and spend the night with her daddy. And i was wondering if You would pick them up on Friday from Daycare because i have to work a double at work in order to pay for Zachary's Birthday present that he wants.I dont see what the problem with them going to Daycare every day that is something that is very stable and that is a routine in there every day life.(They do call every day to check to see if they are there or not) And you are welcome to go over there every day to see them and spend time with them. You could take your lunch break a little bit earlier every day and go and spend it with them. I thought you as there Father would not have a problem with that. I tried talking to you on Sunday when we took Zachary to camp and you wouldnt say anything to me you just walked away. And as far as you calling every night to talk to the kids i think that you should call a little earlier so that both of the kids have plenty of time to talk to you so that they can go to bed at thier scheduled time at 9:00, and another thing i have told the kids that they can call you anytime they want. They both know your cell phone number and i am in the process of getting them to remember your house phone number too. I too dont want the kids to hear our differences either. That is why i prefer to talk to you while they are in bed. But you seem to keep using Zachary as a go between on the telephone. I have tried to get you to meet some where and talk also but you want no part of that either. Please call and let me know if you are going to pick Mirrissa up tonight after you get off of work. And please let me know about Friday so that if you can not pick them up early i can make other arrangements.

Thank you

Stacy

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Wednesday, June 30, 2004 3:41 PM

To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net'

Subject: RE: RE: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

Stacy,

                I have to work today until 8 so I am sure you will agree that I can not pick her up. I was hoping I could pick her up tomorrow from the babysitter after work then keep her over night Thursday and spend the day Friday with her and pick up Zachary from camp Friday evening at 6.

Let me know if this will be acceptable.

Thanks

David Prather

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Wednesday, June 30, 2004 9:31 PM

To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net)

Subject: FW: RE: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

Let me know if this is OK with you.

Dave

 

-----Original Message-----

From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Wednesday, June 30, 2004 10:45 PM

To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net)

Subject: FW: RE: Current parenting schedule 6/28

Hello,

Since you haven't replied I guess I will have to assume no.

I will go pick up Mirrissa from the babysitter at 2pm and Zach from camp at 6pm Friday.

Dave.

 

 

 

 

-----Original Message-----

From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net]

Sent: Wednesday, June 30, 2004 11:31 PM

To: david_p@bellsouth.net

Subject: Re: FW: RE: Current parenting schedule 6/28

 

> Excuse me but i havnt been online since this morning to check my e-mail so you need to start being a little bit more patient. And yes you may pick Mirrissa up on Friday at 2 from the daycare provider. Mirrissa has been sitting here for the last two nights now waiting for daddy to come and pick her up and you dont sh

ow up, so no i am not going to tell her 3 days in a row that daddy is going to come and get her and then you dont show again. So i think it is just best that you pick her up on Friday. Then we will try it again next week on Tuesday and Wednesday and see how it goes. And as for our phone conversations i do not give permission for you to record the conversations.