Documentation April 2004
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Odd numbers are David,
Even numbers are Stacy Stacy 1 2
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Stacy comes to the house
when Dave taking his lunch break. She has the kids
with her and said she came to get Mirrissa's bubble gum. Zach asks if he can
say hello to Takako but Stacy said no. Stacy said "you
aren't getting custody of the kids, kids are with me". Kids got their
NICID cards today. Stacy said "I hope you don't think this is their
primary address, the kids are with me". Dave put the address where the
school district is Pine Trail. Stacy asked what Mirrissa's teacher told Dave
about her. Dave said "Mirrissa is not paying attention at school again,
nothing you didn't know before". Stacy said "I don't think that is
true, Mirrissa is doing fine in school". After she got home, Stacy
called Dave. "We need to talk about the kids". Dave said
"please e-mail me about it, I don't want to
talk to you". "You are saying you can't talk to me like an
adult" Dave said "yes" and repeated his request. Stacy then
said 'it is the first of the month, where is my money". Dave said
"Saturday, I will get paid then". Stacy hung up with out saying
anything. Stacy called Dave at work again to say she sent him e-mail and to
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: David_P@bellsouth.net Subject: Children Dave: I don't know why you find it so difficult discussing our children with me. It is not in the best interest of the children if you can't sit down like a civilized adult and discuss their everyday needs with me or to relay a message the teacher gives you when you pick them up from school every now and then. And i also don't know why all of a sudden you think that you need to do things behind my back when it comes to our children. I should be a part of making the decisions about what happens to them,even if it is your idea for them to do it. You are not the only one who has the authority to make decisions for them, but that is what you are acting like. I am not a silent party, I am their mother and always will be their mother. I don't leave you out of anything that they do in school or otherwise. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Children Stacy, I feel that it is in the children’s best interest if we did not talk to each other. I do not want to expose them to anymore arguing between us. I find it impossible to discuss anything with you without getting angry and feeling absolutely miserable. I know for a fact that for the last 11 years, I tried my personal best to communicate and cooperate with you for the sake of the children. But I must now admit that I cannot do it any longer. That is why I have decided to have the courts decide what will be in the best interest of our children. In the meanwhile, as I am also responsible for the children, I am trying to meet their needs the best I can by filling in where needed on the days I have the children. If you had felt the need for the children to get their eyes examined, I am sure you would have taken them yourself without hesitation. I felt there was a need for them to go, so made the time to take them. Same as if you saw that Mirrissa needed her hair cut, you would take her yourself without consulting me. I believe in a couple of months the courts will decide how I should conduct myself in these matters but until then I will continue to do what I think needs to be done for the children. I respect that you disapprove of Karate and have chosen not to have the children participate on the days you have them. Based on how much they are enjoying it, and from what I observed in class, I believe karate is a good thing and will continue to encourage them on my days. I have told the children that if mommy believes that karate is a waste of time and you shouldn’t go, they should listen to her and not argue with her. She is entitled to her opinion and is trying to do what she thinks is best for you at her house, same as Daddy at his house. I think this is in line with your house rule, “what goes on in this house stays in this house”. I will not dictate to the children how they should act or feel in your house and you will not dictate what goes on in my house with the children. As for school, I am putting extra effort into speaking with the children’s teachers on a daily bases to keep up with any lost communication. I am sure the kids will appreciate it if you will do the same. You will
always be their mother and I will always be their father. I am not doing
anything “behind your back” and I am giving plenty of notice and time for you
to respond regarding any potential schedule changes. If you have any of your own ideas regarding
the children’s needs such as after school activities, summer camp, doctors
etc and they fall on my days with them, I will be happy to include them in
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: David_P@bellsouth.net Subject: The last 11 years, we both know that is not the truth. And i am also not dictating what you should do, but i do feel that we need to communicate and i will continue to do just that, you can get angry at me all you want that is your choice. And just because you communicate with the teachers on the days that you have the children does not mean that you cannot relay things the teachI am really getting tired of hearing you say that you have not been happy for the ers say to you, to me as well. Just as i do with you. That is all part of communication. I am though curious what i have done to you to make you so miserable where i am concerned, as i remember you are the one who cheated and left our family not me. And as far as meeting the childrens needs i am doing the best that i can for now. As far as the eye appointment goes it is kind of hard to make the kids any appointments when i have asked you several times for a list of doctors they can go to, and you have yet given them to me. I am glad that you made the kids an eye appointment, but i am still their mother and you need to let me know so that i can also be there to speak with the doctor. As i would do the same for you, and if you choose not to be there that is your choice, but atleast i let you know what was going on and the opportunity to be present. Yes i would take Mirrissa to go get her hair cut because we have already discussed how we want her hair. So i already know how to get it cut, but that does not even compare to a visit to the doctor, dentist or optometrist. And yes as far as the Karate goes i dont feel that it is a good idea for Zachary, and you should have discussed it with me first before you went behind my back and enrolled him anyway. No i am trying to do what i think is best for them no matter whose house they are at. This whole situation should not be one sided, as we had them together and we should decide what is best for them together. As far as communication with the teachers i do keep in contact with them and i do relay things that we discuss to you all the time, maybe you are just so angry all the time you dont pay any attention to what i am telling you. And as far as you doing things behind my back, that is exactly what you have been doing: enrolling the kids in Karate with out discussing it with me, taking them to an eye appointment without telling me that you made one, Enrolling them in that camp that is 30 miles away, that you know for a fact that i would never agree to send our children 30 miles away for a week with a bunch of people we dont know and have never met. And as far as my ideas for the kids it shouldnt matter wether or not it falls on your days with the kids or not, I am still going to communicate with you about it because you are their father. And you really need to start doing the same with me. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Stacy, I think you need to face the fact that we cannot agree on anything. What you think is the best for the children is not what I think is the best for them. Many of the things you have done with the kids over the years, I do not like. (Not to say that I am a perfect parent) I am now making it a point to make sure that I can raise my children the way I want them raised. I understand you are their mother, and I will never deprive them of their time with you. But I am their father and I want to have influence on their life just as strongly. I know that because of our differences in opinion, I will most likely not be able to see your point of view on many things, which will inventively result in an argument and lost time spent with the kids. That is why I am having the courts decide what is best. As far as our relationship goes, there were times I believed we could be happy together. I am not trying to deny that. What matters is not how we USED to be, but the fact I cannot see myself with you any longer. Every time I speak to you NOW, I am miserable. The e-mails you send me make me feel miserable. We cannot even agree on what happened between us. I DID NOT ‘LEAVE’ the ‘FAMILY’ at any point in my life. I left ‘STACY’ because I did not want to be with her any longer. I have NEVER ‘LEFT the KIDS’ as you always put it. I don’t appreciate you continuing to victimize the kids by saying that I left the kids. I separated from Stacy so that I can be a family with the kids without Stacy. You are your own family with the kids even if I am not part of it. And kids have two complete families that love them. As I said, we are completely different people who share very little with each other. It is not anything that you ever DID to me or DIDN”T do to me. I just don’t like you. You may blame Takako for everything and you are free to believe anything you want. If Takako is guilty of anything, it is that she showed me how much better life could be. I am amazed at how happy I feel when I am with her because I never experienced it before. The relationship may have started out as an affair but it is much more than that now and I don’t regret any part of it. All I want now is to be able to teach my children what I feel is important for the time that I have them. |
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Kids were dropped off in
the morning. They said "mommy said we should ask you if we could get
this thing from the store because you seem to be the one
with the money". Later in the afternoon, kids said they
wanted to quit Karate because it gives them a headache with all the yelling.
I said, "That sounds like what your mom would say. You know she gets
headaches because she has very sensitive ears, was that what happened?"
The kids both nodded in agreement. Zach said he knows he won't get an award
any time soon and it is a waste of time because he won't be able to go to the
karate tournament anyway (karate tournament is on Mommy's day) even though he
knows all the moves. Dave was glad to
see that Mirrissa's homework and it was signed by Stacy when he checked on
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Zach said that Stacy
was planning on sending him to Uncle Bill for a couple of months soon.
Mirrissa immediately said "oh you are not supposed to say that, Mommy
said to not tell Daddy about it". Zach said "She didn't tell me to
not say about this, she didn't want me to say things about what she
said". Dave explained that if Mommy didn't talk to Daddy about it first
they were not going but if Daddy talks with Mommy then they can go. Later
that evening, Mirrissa said "I am going to visit Uncle Bill." I
said "oh have you visited with Uncle Bill often?" Mirrissa said
"No not for a long time". I ask "Is visiting with Uncle Bill a
lot of fun?" She said "No not really". |
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Paper work from WA arrived
and we dropped it off. Mirrissa's new eyeglasses were ready and she was very
excited to get new glasses. We
discussed that she should probably wear her old ones when she is doing karate
or going to the beach, and save the new ones for school and studying to try
to keep them undamaged as long as possible. Dave is very
concerned that Stacy will break them out of spite. In order to delay Stacy's
revenge for at least a little while, we decide that we should have Mirrissa
wear her glasses to school at least one day for her teachers and friends to
see before letting Stacy see them. |
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Stacy |
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Dave thought he was
scheduled to drop the kids off with Stacy in the morning as he had been doing
the last couple of weeks but Stacy showed up at his door in the morning. No
words were said between Dave except for asking for money. Mirrissa was
sitting at the table talking to me eating her French toaster sticks. When
Zach, who was already outside and saw Stacy drive up first, called to her "Mirrissa hurry up, mommy's here", she froze, shot a
glance at me, put her fork down and walked out without looking at me as I
said "have a good day". Zach
had a huge origami crane that he had me make the night before. He went to his
book back to look for the other ones he put there so he could show them
together to his mom. He couldn't find them in his book bag. He walked over to
Stacy and asked "Did you throw away my origami's?" Stacy said
"no". Later Stacy called
Dave and asked where Mirrissa's glasses were. Dave said that she doesn't need
them on the week end and they are for school during the week. Stacy said
"do you think I would break them or something?" Dave said nothing |
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Stacy daytime, Dave
overnight |
$50 grocery, $100 gas |
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Message----- -----Original Message----- The last 11 years, we both know that is not the truth…..
=======This got me thinking==============
-----Original Message----- From: Stacy Erickson [mailto:Serickso@tampabay.rr.com] Sent: To: 'davidP@tampabay.rr.com' Subject: Dave I would rather not send this in an e-mail until we have either discussed it over the telephone or in person because when I ask you to send me copies of stuff that you have already written you never send it to me. There are also other things I want to discuss. For one the promise you made me 3 months ago. I have kept every promise that I have made to you. But you have not kept any promises that you made to me. Our family is worth fighting for after 10 years almost 11 years. You need to start remembering all the good times, I can describe detail for detail and you say that you don't remember. Stacy |
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=======You said we used to be happy together. I was wondering when that was. =========== ====== Could it have been in 2002? ==========
-----Original Message----- From: David Prather [SMTP:DavidP@ccitechnology.com] Sent:
To: 'davidp@ccitechnology.com' Subject: RE: dinner
That is not it at all. You have
been acting all stand offish since I come back home. Maybe it's my fault for
being gone so long, but it couldn't be helped. I didn't plan my mothers death
and I sure didn't plane to be gone almost 3 months either. And for someone
wanting to eat a home cooked meal so bad you sure as hell don't know where
home is. You have been home one day since we arrived back in |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather [mailto:davidp@ccitechnology.com] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (E-mail) Subject: RE: dinner
Do you ever stop bitching?? |
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==== Oh, no I guess 2002 is out. Maybe it was the year before ======== -----Original Message----- From: Stacy Erickson [SMTP:serickso@tampabay.rr.com] Sent:
To: 'davidp@ccitechnology.com' Subject: Dave what time are you
coming home tonight? Why were you acting so secretive to me this morning
again all of a sudden. I am not going to steal anything from you. You
know you can accuse me all you want, but you know I am not a thief. Never
have been never will be. You have been acting like an ass to me the
last couple of days. I have not done anything to you to deserve it either.
You had a piece of ass a couple of days ago so I don't know what the hell
your problem is. |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather [SMTP:davidp@ccitechnology.com] Sent:
To: 'serickso@tampabay.rr.com' Subject: RE:
Maybe its because you NEVER STOP BITCHING about how BAD YOU HAVE IT AND HOW BAD I AM TO YOU. If you have it so bad do us both a favor and either STOP BITCHING or LEAVE. Make up your mind and do it soon because I am really FUCKING TIRED of hearing about it. |
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======Well it could be the previous summer? ======= -----Original Message----- From: Stacy Erickson [SMTP:serickso@tampabay.rr.com] Sent:
To: 'davidp@ccitechnology.com' Subject: I hope your happy with who
ever your meeting tonight. Why did you have me come and get you tonight? It's
pretty god damn good that you can leave and do as you please and IM stuck
here with the kids and no transportation. I guess it was true when you
said you didn't miss me at all huh? You know if you want me and the
kids out of your life I wish you just say so instead of constantly treating
me like dirt in front of them. You had Zachary saying that he hates me because
you left tonight, and Mirrissa saying that I made her Daddy go away. When the
only one who made her Daddy go away is you. I bet your pretty proud of your
self for that. I have not done a damn mean thing to you since ive been
back and this is what I get in return. |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather [mailto:davidp@ccitechnology.com] Sent: To: 'serickso@tampabay.rr.com' Subject: RE:
Perhaps you should look again. You can not talk to me for 5 second without starting some argument over some small and insignificant. You have ZERO (0), no actually you have -100(Negative 100) sense of humor. You take everything I say as for it face value. Even the most obvious exaggeration's.
Maybe someday you will grow up and stop PMS'ing. Until then I am tired of
fighting with you. I will not fight you any more. You can either grow up and
stop ACTING you have things oh so bad or you can go back to David Prather |
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======= Maybe the summer before that? ==========
-----Original Message----- From: AngelsEyes4U@aol.com [mailto:AngelsEyes4U@aol.com] Sent: To: DavidP@comcntr.com Subject: Re: (no subject)
You didn't have to stay with me. You could have went your merry little way to Florida by your self the only reason I came with you is because you asked me to come with you and you not only asked me to come with you but you asked our children too. but I guess they are just as big of a burden as I am. I will call monday morning and see if you can put the car in your name and then you can also get the insurance in your name. As soon as I find a job and save up enough money I will make sure that we are out of life for good and then you won't have to worry about being in such debt because of us. You can put an add in the paper to sell the other computer because the kids and I don't need your handouts. The bedroom is yours for the rest of the time that we are here so you won't have to worry about being bothered by me or the kids anymore. As for anything else around the house I will clean up after the kids and myself but as far as you are concerned You are single and you can do it yourself. That means you can go out with your new girlfriend but if you want to sleep with her you can do it on the floor because you won't be doing it in my bed. I have heard enough about the kids and myself being a burden and a debt to you. as far as I am concerned you don't even exist. |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather Sent: To: 'AngelsEyes4U@aol.com' Subject: RE: (no subject)
I don’t exist huh. I will be sure to rush right home now. And correct yourself and quit talking for me. I NEVER said anything about the kids. You are ALWAYS trying to bring them into your fight so you can use them. LEAVE THE KIDS ALONE. You ARE the problem. NOT the kids. |
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====Well maybe summer is just bad for us. Surely we were happy in 2000? ===
From: AngelsEyes4U@aol.com [mailto:AngelsEyes4U@aol.com] Sent: To: DavidP@comcntr.com Subject: your being an ass
You know I am really sick of your attitude lately, If I don't do as you request then I am treated like a piece of dirt until I do. As far as CCI goes no I am not going to become an independent contractor if they cant hire me outright then I will find a job else where. I will delete everything of mine off of this computer seems how you think I am hiding stuff from you so much. I have nothing to hide, just because I don't like you hanging over my shoulder, you know you don't like it either and you have said so in the past. If you want me to I will even take my name off of AOL too. that should prove that I have nothing to hide. I don't deserve the treatment that I am getting from you. |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather Sent: To: 'AngelsEyes4U@aol.com' Subject: RE: your being an ass
Listen bitch, Get real. I practically treat you like a fucking queen. I do the best I can with what I have. That is a lot more than I can say for you. If you want to go on acting like you have it soooo very bad you go right ahead. Although it would be in everyone’s best interest if you would cheer up and quit acting like your some kind of abused spoiled brat. |
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-----Original Message----- From: AngelsEyes4U@aol.com [SMTP:AngelsEyes4U@aol.com] Sent:
To: DavidP@comcntr.com Subject: (no subject)
I seen how you were looking at those interviewers when I dropped you off today. Hurry Hurry you better go jump on them before they get away from you. Because you sure as hell don't look at me like that. What am I not skinny enough or my hair isn't blonde enough or my boobs aren't big enough. |
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-----Original Message----- From: AngelsEyes4U@aol.com [SMTP:AngelsEyes4U@aol.com] Sent:
To: DavidP@comcntr.com Subject: Re: (no subject)
So what you don't look at me like
that because I don't have a job? You know I have been looking for a job and I
really don't appreciate you using that for an excuse of why you don't look at
me like that. And you want me to be ambitious, well what about you all you
think about is being at your precious job. Maybe if I had someone to be
ambitious about things would be different. You use all these excuses of why
you don't look at me that way, you know you use to no matter what the house
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather Sent: To: 'AngelsEyes4U@aol.com' Subject: RE: (no subject)
Whatever, I am so sure yelling at the top of your lungs at the kids everyday is going to make them really happy. Ha Ha. And you mean to tell me when you go to the beach you don’t drool over guys… Bullshit. You have NEVER looked at me like that EVER. So, you do whatever you feel you have too and I truly hope someday you do find happiness. |
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must have been before we moved to
-----Original Message----- From: David Prather Sent: To: 'AngelsEyes4U@aol.com' Subject: RE: (no subject)
Maybe I would look at you like
that if you were ambitious, cheerful, had a job or least kept the house
clean. But I understand how hot is has been is a real good excuse for not
working. And the heat is a good excuse for not being cheerful, and the heat
is a good excuse for not being ambitious. Maybe one of these day your excuses
will bit you in your ass and you will wake up. |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather Sent: To: 'AngelsEyes4U@aol.com' Subject: RE: (no subject)
Maybe because I thought things would be different here. I don’t know why would think that. You have never done dishes or laundry or anything that has to do with work. And I am at work because I am ambitious. They kind of go hand in hand. I am more interested in making money before I spend it. All you every want to do is spend, spend, spend.
===== I guess I just don’t see it. ============= ===== Looking back now I am ashamed of how rude I was. ======= ===== I should have broken up with you long ago. Before I said all these things ======= |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: Your e-mail > Why are you being so petty all of a sudden. I really dont care anymore. I wouldnt take you back if you were the last man on earth. I have friends now, and ones that dont have to be around you. So you need to just get over yourself. Because i dont feel the way i used to about you, quite frankly you make me sick to my stomach. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Schedule Change? I heard that you now have a job and you are working on Saturdays and Sundays. I am sorry you were not able to be with the kids this weekend. If you had not lied to me that the ‘kids wanted to stay here tonight’ and told me straight up “I was working and I wasn’t able to see the kids this weekend, would it be alright if I kept them tonight?” I would have understood and agreed. Or if you knew you had to work this weekend, you could have suggested that we swap weekends so you can be with them on the weekend you aren’t working. That aside, I was wondering if you would like to make any changes to the schedule so that you can have your days to be with the kids when you aren’t working or going to school. If you would like to do this, please suggest a schedule that will work for you better. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: Schedule Change? > For one thing i did not lie to you about the kids wanting to stay with me tonight. both of them sat right here and cried that they did not want to go to your house tonight, so if anyone is lying to you it is the kids, because they dont want you to get angry. Number two yes i do have a job and it is really none of your business. Number three i am not always going to have to work weekends and i paid for a babysitter, in which they were taken very good care of while i was at work, and they got to stay at their own house. Number four i didnt say anything to you about it because i still have the last e-mail where i asked you to watch them for a couple of hours for me and you through a big fit about me breaking my schedule already and that i wouldnt get them back until my next scheduled day. And it would not have mattered what i said to you tonight because you always have to act like a JERK to me about everything. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Schedule Change? Stacy, Number one : That is true, the kids could be lying. Number two : I am happy for you that you have a job. Number three : I am glad you were able to get a babysitter and I am sure she is competent. The kids did say they were bored all weekend, but they could be lying. Please remember that I am available to baby sit and entertain them anytime. Number four : you never "ASKED" me to watch them for a couple of hours. As I recall, the day you are referring to was a Friday where the kids did not have school because of Teacher Duty Day. It was a day that you were scheduled to pick up the kids. The conversation started with me reminding you to come pick up the kids before I go to work. Then you told me that you would be unable to pick them up because you have to go to school for a test and that I would have to make arrangements for them. I made the comment "Already not following your schedule?" because you just demanded that I do something about the kids on the day YOU were scheduled to have them. Had you just said, "I have to go to school on Friday and I can't watch the kids during the day time, I am thinking of getting a babysitter" I would have said, "I could watch the kids for you until you get back from school, or you can get a babysitter yourself, which ever you want because it is your day with the kids". Please remember that I am always happy to watch the kids if you have to go anywhere. I can take off from work anytime I need to if you let me know couple days in advance. I will be happy to schedule your weekends when you don't have to work so please let me know if you need to swap any weekends. See e-mails below. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: visitation arrangement ...please remember to come pick up the kids at |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: RE: RE: visitation arrangement ... I think you can go into work late on Friday because i cannot miss school on Friday because i have my final test... |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: visitation arrangement Already not following your schedule? That will be fine, I will take
the day off to be with the kids on Friday to accommodate your schedule
change. I was just reminding you because it was your day to be with them.
Since you are unable to be with them, I can take care of them and you can
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: RE: RE: visitation arrangement > nevermind i will pick them
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: visitation arrangement As I said, you are not
"putting me out" of anything. I am happy to see the kids as much as
I can. However, if you would like to take them on your day, you are free to
do so. Since it will be your schedule change and I have made reasonable
efforts to accommodate you, I will not be paying for the babysitter. I will
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afternoon to request a schedule change asking if she could have the kids
starting tonight. Dave said not tonight but he will consider other changes
and asked her to e-mail him. "I don't see why you can't talk to me on
the phone". Dave said that "I don't have that good of a memory and
I can't think on my feet". Stacy said she doesn't have to work every
weekend and she was off this coming weekend and wanted to swap. Dave just
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evening and spoke to the kids. She said she bought them a new lunch box and
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Kids went
to karate and found that their classmates had gone to the tournament and
gotten medals. After class, they asked Dave if it had been daddy's day on Saturday,
would they have been allowed to go to the tournament." Dave said
"It was your mommy's days so don't ask me about it". Then they
asked if they could go to the Easter egg hunt with the Karate team this
Saturday. Dave tried to shrug it off with "we will think about it"
but Zach wouldn't let it go. Finally we told him that his mommy missed them
this week end because she was working and wanted to have them again this
weekend. And that was why daddy is saying "maybe". Zach said
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to speak to the kids before bed. She didn't pick up the phone and he was
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Then she said that she was going to take
Zach's new books to her house so he can read them. Zach had ordered books
from Scholastic and they had just arrived that day. Dave told her she can take
them after he is done with them here. Stacy yelled "Fine!! I will just
get some books for Zach myself!!". As Stacy was saying these things,
Mirrissa started to say she wanted to go home with mommy and continued to
throw a tantrum. Dave explained to her that she will see mommy tomorrow but
Mirrissa followed Stacy out to the car. Dave heard Stacy say to Mirrissa
"you can't come with me until the judge sort things out". Mirrissa
came back in and Stacy left. Zach pretended Stacy wasn't there by staring at the
TV screen during the whole episode. Stacy now works for Racetrac located on
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if he could watch the kids on Monday morning while she went to school. Dave
agreed. Kids were all excited about their busy day and talked about it in
great detail to Stacy. Later Dave
called Stacy back to discuss some things. Issues regarding Karate and camp
were reiterated. Stacy said she forbids
the kids to be baby sat by Takako under any circumstance. Dave
asked her what was wrong with Takako, Stacy said that only thing wrong with
her is her relationship to Dave. Dave said that if he can't choose his own
babysitter, she shouldn't be using a baby sitter either. Dave had asked her
to introduce him to her babysitter but she never did. Stacy said that the kids told her that
Takako forced them to call her mommy and Dave and Takako forced them to hug
and kiss Takako good night and good morning when they didn't want to. Dave
laughed and said 'you have to come up with a better lie than that" Stacy
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Phone Conversation Per our phone conversation:
Stacy believes Zach is more aggressive towards Mirrissa due to karate even though he was just as aggressive before karate. I believe that karate gives him an outlet for his aggression and is good for both kids and I have not observed any aggression by Zach to his sister. Stacy said that she will take kids to karate if her schedule permits. I acknowledge that Stacy may choose not to take the kids to karate. Kids will be at no circumstance under the care of a babysitter, paid or otherwise. They will always be under the direct supervision of the parent. Stacy does not believe the children are old enough for summer camp even though camp is designed specifically for their respective age groups. I believe camp is a great opportunity for the kids to learn and grow and will continue to encourage them. Day camp is acceptable by Stacy but I believe that it is similar to school and will not provide the unique learning opportunity available in overnight camp. Stacy believes that she will suffer too much in the children's absence which is unfounded because the kids are attending at different times and she will always have the company of one child to diffuse her loneliness during camp.
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to speak to the kids. She spoke to them on speaker phone, then moved on to
talk to Dave. She resumed the name calling and reiterated the points she made
on her reply e-mail. When she got to the part about why she thinks the kids
shouldn't go to camp, she said "I never said they couldn't go because I
will miss them too much! Don't make things up!!" At this point, Zach
spoke up and said "But you DID say that!". Stacy knew she was on
speaker phone and the kids were listening but she didn't care as she ranted
on how unfair Dave was being to her when she scarified 11 years of her life
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: Phone Conversation
"For one i never said that Zachary was more aggrssive towards Mirrissa because of Karate, I said i don't think it is a good idea for him to be in Karate because of his anger. His exact words were now when he gets in a fight he can use the Karate he has learned on the other person no matter who it is. "Number two, I did say that the kids would still go to Karate even when they are with me if i am able to take them. You have no right to assume what i am going to do. " Number Three: The kids do need to be with a babysitter, We need to both agee upon a babysitter together. I cannot miss school, i am almost done and i am not going to let you mess it up for me. For the last 11 years i have put my life on hold for you and our family. It is time for me to do something for me and our children so that i can take care of them and myself on my own without anyones help. "Number Four, I have to work in order to pay my Bills and take care of the kids. This all started just because i said that i did not agree to your girlfiriend watching the kids. "Number Five: No i don't believe the kids are old enough for over night camp and especially one that is 30 miles away. Day camp is not similar to school and there is nothing wrong with them going to a day camp. It will give them just as much of a learning opportunity as you say that the overnight camp will give them. "I never said that i was going to suffer too much in the childrens absence, and i don't appreciate you making up stories that i never said. never the less you like always leave out othe things that you said on the telephone so i will write it down for you. You forgot to talk about the names that you called me when i was voicing my opinion about the camp, karate, and not wanting your girlfriend to watch the kids: which was that you called me a STUPID IGNORENT WORTHLESS BITCH. And another thing when i call to talk to you it is not a good idea to involve the kids in our conversation by putting the phone on speaker phone. |
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Dave spoke to Zach and found out about the fish.
Dave got back on the phone and explained to her that the problem was probably
not the fish and it goes deeper. Dave thought that Zach was mad about
something else including the break up. Stacy became infuriated and screamed
"I don't know why you always make it my fault! I didn't have the kids by
myself you had something to do with it too!" Dave tried to explain that
he wasn't saying that it was her fault but was trying to help her understand
what was going on with Zach and for her to stop taking Zach's words
personally. Stacy continued to stress how unfair it was that everything was
her fault and Dave never helps with the kids. Stacy punished Zach by making
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Little while later, Dave
called back to see if Stacy would like to have Dave talk to Zach and take him
for the night so she can have some peace with Mirrissa. Stacy said "I
don't understand why you would do anything now anyway but she would like it if
he came over so they could speak to Zach together". Dave said he is
willing to speak to Zach alone but not with her. Stacy started yelling why is
it that you can't talk to me when I am trying to communicate with you. Dave
explained that he doesn't always agree with what she says and he doesn't want
to argue with her. Stacy said that this would never have happened if it
weren't for Takako and all she has ever done was try to do her best for the
family but Dave is too angry to even speak to her about the kids when they
are all screwed up because of Dave. Dave said "yes Stacy, we screwed up
and I accept 50% of the blame, now I am trying to fix my part". She demanded to know why Dave doesn't give a shit about her
feelings anymore and said she didn't give a damn about Dave anyway. As soon
as she paused Dave asked to speak to the kids to tell them good night. After
a couple of attempts and some cursing later, Stacy handed the phone over to
Mirrissa. When Dave finished speaking to Zach, Zach reported that mommy was crying and it
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David |
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Dave that Stacy's friend John had told him "I am not going to be your
friend anymore because I can't stand a boy who is disrespectful to his
mother". Apparently Zach had been mouthing off again this morning and
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Phone Conversation I have written responses in caps so you can read it easier. Please don't take that to mean I am yelling. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: Phone Conversation "For one i never said that Zachary was more aggrssive towards Mirrissa because of Karate, I said i don't think it is a good idea for him to be in Karate because of his anger. His exact words were now when he gets in a fight he can use the Karate he has learned on the other person no matter who it is. I STILL THINK KARATE IS GOOD FOR ZACH, ESPECIALLY BECAUSE OF HIS ANGER, IT WILL TEACH HIM SELF-DISCIPLINE. CAN WE AGREE TO DISAGREE ON THIS? NOW, WHEN HE SAYS THAT HE IS GOING TO HURT OTHERS WITH KARATE OR ANYTHING ELSE, THAT IS DEFINITELY NOT OK. I WILL SUPPORT ANY REPRIMANDS THAT DOES NOT INCLUDE KEEPING HIM AWAY FROM KARATE OR OTHER ACTIVITIES. |
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I did say that the kids would still go to Karate even when they are with me if i am able to take them. You have no right to assume what i am going to do. ALL I WANTED TO DO WAS MAKE IT CLEAR TO YOU THAT I AM NOT FORCING YOU TO DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO OR YOU DON'T THINK IS GOOD FOR THE KIDS. Number Three: The kids do need to be with a babysitter, We need to both agee upon a babysitter together. I AGREE THAT THERE MAY BE TIMES WHEN KIDS HAVE TO BE WITH A BABYSITTER. YOU CAN USE YOUR BABYSITTER ON YOUR DAYS, I WILL USE MINE ON MY DAYS. |
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I cannot miss school, i am almost done and i am not going to let you mess it up for me. For the last 11 years i have put my life on hold for you and our family. It is time for me to do something for me and our children so that i can take care of them and myself on my own without anyones help. THAT IS A VERY GOOD PLAN AND I DON'T THINK I CAN DO ANYTHING TO HINDER SOMEBODY SO DEDICATED TO ACHIEVING HER GOALS. |
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"Number Four, I have to work in order to pay my Bills and take care of the kids. I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT AS I AM DOING THE SAME. This all started just because i said that i did not agree to your girlfiriend watching the kids. I AGREE, SO MAYBE WE CAN AGREE TO MIND OUR OWN BUSINESS ABOUT BABYSITTERS. |
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"Number Five: No i don't believe the kids are old enough for over night camp and especially one that is 30 miles away. WOULD A CAMP 1 MILE AWAY BE ACCEPTABLE? I THINK WE JUST DISAGREE ON THIS ONE. Day camp is not similar to school and there is nothing wrong with them going to a day camp. It will give them just as much of a learning opportunity as you say that the overnight camp will give them. I DISAGREE, SO WE NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE WE JUST DISAGREE AND WON'T BE ABLE TO PURSUADE THE OTHER TO CHANGE THEIR MIND |
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"I never said that i was going to suffer too much in the childrens absence, and i don't appreciate you making up stories that i never said. PERHAPS THAT ISN'T WHAT YOU MEANT BUT BOTH KIDS AND I HEARD YOU SAY 'I WOULD MISS THE KIDS TOO MUCH IF THEY WENT TO CAMP' SO WE THOUGHT THAT WAS WHAT YOU MEANT. BUT I NOW UNDERSTAND THAT ISN'T WHAT YOU WANTED TO SAY. |
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never the less you like always leave out othe things that you said on the telephone so i will write it down for you. You forgot to talk about the names that you called me when i was voicing my opinion about the camp, karate, and not wanting your girlfriend to watch the kids: which was that you called me a STUPID IGNORENT WORTHLESS BITCH. I SHOULD NOT HAVE CALLED YOU NAMES. THAT IS WHY I THINK WE SHOULD NOT TALK ON THE PHONE OR DIRECTLY. BUT YOU KEEP INSISTING THAT WE NEED TO TALK. PLEASE USE E-MAIL MUCH AS POSSIBLE. |
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>And another thing when i call to talk to you it is not a good idea to involve the kids in our conversation by putting the phone on speaker phone. IT KEEPS ME FROM CALLING YOU NAMES IF YOU ARE ON SPEAKER PHONE AND KIDS ARE ALSO LISTENING IN. JUST LIKE YOU, I HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE FROM THE KIDS SO I AM OK WITH HAVING THEM LISTEN. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: Phone Conversation Thank you for finally responding to my e-mail. One i think you need to learn how to communicate with me whether it is in e-mail format or talking on the phone or even face to face. Whether or not the kids are present you have no right to call me any of those names, because i am not a Ignorant Worthless Stupid Bitch. And no i dont have anything to hide from the kids either but they dont need to here everything we say and do not need to be on speaker phone either when i am talking to them as you are not when you call my house. That is just plane rude and an invasion of my privacy. And as far as the camp goes i said i would agree to them going to a day camp, right now they are having to many problems, and need to be home at night. They get shuffled around enough with out sending them with a bunch of strangers for a week. And no i dont agree about the babysitter thing, I said that we could put an add in the paper and interview people to watch the kids together and agree upon someone that we both like, because i have said it before and i will continue to say that i do not want your girlfriend babysitting our children, and as there mother i have the right to say who i want watching the kids and who i dont. That is something you need to get used to. Just like if i had a boyfriend, i would not leave the kids in his care because they are not his kids and he has no business baby sitting them when i am not around. And you are right about one thing, you cant destroy anything i do anymore because i wont let you, even with all the hell you have put me through for the last year i am still going to school and i will finish if it is the last thing i ever do, and i wont let you or anyone take anything away from me ever again. Because I have changed into a different person and i will no longer let anyone especially a man walk all over me in the way i let you do it.. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: Phone Conversation > Just a few other things that i forgot to write about.
The one thing you need to quit doing is assuming that i am or i am not going
to do something. If you dont have the guts to ask me personally then quit
assuming anything. And as far as me saying that i would miss the kids that is
true yes i would miss the kids, i miss the kids when they are at school or
even when they go with you but i never said that is the reason why i did not
want them to go to that camp, had you listened to me all the times i stated
why i did not want them to go, you would not be saying that i would suffer
too much. As far as the Karate thing goes or other activities,
if Zachary does not straighten up and start respecting me or listening to me
like he is suppose to and how i have taught him to use manners, I will take
activities away from him until he starts learning how to act like a young
man, not some thug off of the street. because i will not put up with it and
that is not how he has been raised to act or to treat other people no matter
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David |
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Based on the previous
night's e-mails, Dave thought Stacy will come by in the morning to pick the
kids up. She said that she would rather skip school than have
Takako baby-sit. Kids cried when Dave told them of the schedule change and
they will be at mommy's house till Daddy gets off of work. Both kids got
dressed by went back to bed to wait. Stacy never showed. Finally around |
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We drove by Halifax Marina
to see if they had fishing or boat rental there but we didn't see any signs.
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Zach is fascinated by
fishing and wants to fish constantly.
When we got home we went fishing, Dave caught a catfish and caught a
crab that Zach found. We cleaned and cooked the catfish. The kids didn't want
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say Dave has to take care of the kids tomorrow because she has to go to
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: FYI Who Can 'Pick Up' The Children? One problem that plagues divorced couples is the age-old dispute over who is allowed to "pick up the children". In the simplest terms, who is legally allowed to take the children and transport them from point A to point B? Can your spouse or significant other pick them up, and can your ex object to this? This problem often manifests itself when one parent (usually the custodial parent) objects to the other parent's spouse or significant other going to pick up the children from school or for visitation time. The custodial parent may also impose restrictions on who is allowed to be around the child during the non-custodial parent's parenting time, and may justify denying parenting time based on this. Occasionally these objections are made in good faith, but often they stem from control and jealousy issues associated with the custodial parent. (Non-custodial parents make these kinds of objections much less frequently, due in part to the fact that the court frequently discounts the objections or concerns of non-custodial parents.) If the parenting plan does not contain language that specifies who may or may not pick up the children, then the parents may designate anyone they want as their agent to act on their behalf and pick up the children. Unless the custodial parent believes that the children are truly in imminent physical danger from the person (or people) they object to, he or she has no legal authority over who the non-custodial parent designates to pick up the children. This also extends to who is allowed to be around the child during the non-custodial parent's time. The custodial parent cannot legally place restrictions on events during the non-custodial parent's time unless there is a provision in the divorce decree that specifically addresses this issue. |
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Q&A I am denying visitation because I do not want my children around my ex's new significant other Is this OK? No, you cannot. If you do, you will be in contempt of court. The only time it would be reasonable to deny visitation would be if you honestly believed that the children would or will be in immediate physical danger. You would also need to be able to prove this assertion in court to avoid a contempt charge. My ex refuses to allow my significant other to pick up my children. Can he/she do this? Generally, no. Unless your parenting plan specifically states that only you can pick up the kids, then anyone you choose or 'designate' can pick them up, transport them to home or school, etc. My ex is exposing our children to people I don't approve of. Can I stop him/her from doing this? Generally, no. Unless you can show that these people are harming the children in some substantive way, you cannot dictate who your ex associates with. You would need to get a court order to prohibit these people from being around the children, and courts are usually reluctant to get involved in these kinds of matters. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: FYI > this is fine if this is how you want it to be, then fine i am done trying to discuss things with you and i guess we will see each other in court, you want me to live by what your wishes are for the children but you dont want to live by what my wishes are. This is why we always fight about everything because it is always one sided and if it is not your way then you are not happy and that is when you start your shit. If i have to miss school again tomorrow i will but i will not have her watch our kids. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: FYI Great, if you are available, I don't need a babysitter.
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: FYI > and another thing i know you did not look this up on your own, i can almost guarante like always she is sitting right there with you and has her nose in everybit of our private conversation And you can send me all the crap you want and say what
ever you want but part of our childrens problems stem from her and being
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: FYI Ofcourse she is always supporting me. She is very important to me and have provided the kids with more education and widened their veiw beyond mommy and daddy. She is not with my kids just as a convenient babysitter nor as an incidental by product of us dating. I let them spend time with Takako because I am thinking of my kids. That is my opinion. You are the kids mother and Takako will be at most a friend to the kids, so why are you threatened by her? It shouldn't matter how much time the kids spend with Takako, you are their mother. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: FYI .I DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HER SUPPORTING YOU, QUITE
FRANKLY I DONT CARE. BUT WHAT I DO CARE ABOUT IS OUR CHILDREN, THEY ARE NOT
JUST YOUR CHILDREN THEY ARE MINE ALSO, AND YOU NEED TO START THINKING AS
SUCH. AND LETTING THEM SPEND TIME WITH HER BECAUSE YOU ARE THINKING OF THE
KIDS WHAT KIND OF AN EXCUSE IS THAT. IF YOU WERE THINKING OF THE KIDS AT ALL,
AND THIER FEELINGS YOU WOULD UNDERSTAND WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY TO YOU. I AM
NOT NOR I EVER BE THREATENED BY HER IN ANY WAY, I KNOW SHE WILL NEVER BE
THIER MOMMY, YOU KNOW I DONT ASK YOU FOR MUCH IN THE WAY WE BOTH RAISE THE
KIDS, ACCEPT WE BOTH DO IT TOGETHER, I ABIDE BY YOUR WISHES BY ONE LETTING
THE KIDS GO TO KARATE EVEN THOUGH I DONT AGREE WITH IT, I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: FYI > for one the arrangement the other day is that you did not want them with a babysitter at all. Number two I never said that we could not agree upon anything you are the one saying that. All i want to do is to find a babysitter that we mutually agree upon so that there wont be any more arguments about that. I dont see where that is so hard for you to do. You need to start sticking to what you say in stead of changing your mind every other day. This is what i am talking about you are nice one second and then the next you turn into a jerk to me. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: Phone Conversation Unlike you, you are welcome to listen to my conversations with the kids if you want. Just because you do things one way at your house, you shouldn't assume I do the same at my house nor automatically assume you 'deserve' the same treatment. It seems to me that you are the one doing the assuming e.g. assume that I shouldn't use Takako as a babysitter because you would never have your boyfriend baby-sit. I expect you to do what ever you want to do and I have told you that you are free to do so. You don't need to tell me everything you are doing but don't expect me to see everything the way you do. If the kids go to camp they will have the stability of spending all day and all night in one place more days than they ever do at mommy or daddy's house. But that aside, if you would like to propose a more stable schedule for the kids please e-mail it to me. I also do not think alternating days is the best schedule for the kids. As I recall, the reason for the two day rotating schedule was because you couldn't go three days without seeing the kids. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Sunday, March 07, 2004 To: Subject: RE: RE: visitation arrangement > It is not the scedule I have a problem with but I am used to picking up The kids from school everyday, I just can't go with out seeing them for Three days in a row. And even though you hate me so much, you of all People should know that I don't like being with out my kids. Do you remember how hard it was for me when we first came down here to visit the florida area and i was away from them for a week?? I will not ever do that again.... |
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It is not your "right" to say who is watching the kids. You need to get used to the fact that Takako is part of my life now and she is part of the kid's life too. I am not going to tell you who can or can't take care of the kids on your watch because I know you will do what you think is best for the kids. I am glad you are happy with different person you have now become and I hope the best for you. You don't need to keep proving it to me it doesn't change my feelings for you. I will deal with Zach's behavior my way as it comes up
during my time with him. I am sure you can discipline him appropriately when
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: Subject: RE: RE: Phone Conversation 4/10/04 Appox. > I dont know listen in on your conversations with the kids as it is an invasion of not only your privacy but the kids as well. I cant even call to say good night to our children when they are with you because you have to have it on speaker phone for everyone to listen to, and that is not fair to me and our children. And i do deserve the same respect i give you with the privacy i give you and our children to have a conversation. And no i dont want takako to watch our children. As their parents we need to find a babysitter that we mutually agree upon and trust to take care of our children when we cant. And as far as tell you what i am doing with our children and for our children, that is what they call communication, which you are the one who seems to have a problem doing in that department. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Kids tomorrow. I understand your proposed schedule for rest of the week is the following. Thursday :Dave till noon or so, 1 hour with Stacy, rest of the day with Dave, Friday: With Dave all day as scheduled, to Stacy at Saturday : Stacy as scheduled. Sunday :With Stacy all day as scheduled, to Dave at 6pm
I will agree to this schedule change if we can agree to mind our own business regarding babysitters. Why am I being so stubborn? Because I hold a job down just like you and have made plans for spring holiday, weeks in advance. Had you even told me last week that you needed somebody to take care of the kids this week on your days, I could have gotten vacation time or a babysitter. But now it is too late even for me to get a babysitter on such short notice. But I understand the predicament our children are in and it is our responsibility to make sure they have one of us or a babysitter. I have a more flexible job schedule compared to you due to my tenure with my company so I am willing to figure something out. I will not agree to this request unless you drop the restrictions regarding who baby sits the kids. End of story. Please reply to say yes or no. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: Subject: Re: Kids tomorrow. > What happened to the e-mail you sent me that said you are available to watch them any time i need you to. Now you are saying that because i think we should find a mutual babysitter for the kids to go to, you are refusing to keep them tomorrow so that i can go to school and work. This is what i am talking about that my things that are important to me for the sake of our children and myself always have to be put on hold because you have to be an ass about things. What about all those times you didnt show up to pick them up until 8 or 9 at night did i say anything to you about that no i didnt. but when it comes to me needing you to watch the kids there are always double standards with you, especially when it comes to me trying to do something that is important. Thanks to you i am going to get fired tomorrow because you wont watch the kids and i will probabaly get kicked out of school with only having three classes left before i go to externship. What happened to the e-mail that said you were not going to hinder me in anyway of achieving my goals that are so important to me, because that is exactly what you are doing and have been doing the whole entire time i have been in school. I have never done that to you. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Kids tomorrow. I said I can be available any time, GIVEN NOTICE. Calling me at midnight the night before IS NOT NOTICE in anybody's book. I am not hindering you from anything. You are the one that failed to manage your parenting and your job and your school responsibilities. You say you don't have a choice, but anybody will see that you DO have a choice, all you have to do is mind your own business about babysitters. If you can't agree to that, you are the one limiting your options and your future. I hope good luck in the future. See e-mail. -----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Sunday, April 04, 2004 To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Schedule Change? ...Please remember that I am always happy to watch the kids if you have to go anywhere. I can take off from work anytime I need to if you let me know couple days in advance. I will be happy to schedule your weekends when you don't have to work so please let me know if you need to swap any weekends.... |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Kids tomorrow deadline Importance: High If you don’t answer yes to my proposal by 12:30am ( in thirty minutes), I will assume ‘NO’ and will be dropping the kids off at your house at 5:30 AM Thursday morning. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: Subject: Re: Kids tomorrow deadline > fine you can go ahead and drop them off at 5:30 to me and i will be going straight to the court house and to my attourneys office. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 To: Subject: Re: RE: Kids tomorrow. > I dont have to mind my own business about babysitters, for they are my kids also not just yours. And you know i have to go to school and work. Other wise i dont have a future for me and our children. I had a babysitter lined up until you sent me the e-mail stating that there woudld not be a babysitter whether it was paid for or it was free, because if you caught them with a babysitter you were going to take them. So because of that i lost the babysitter that i had arranged for our children. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Thursday, April 15, 2004 To: Subject: Re: RE: Kids tomorrow. > For the second time of writing this. I have always watched the kids when you could not make it home from work, or you didnt show up until 8 or 9 at night to pick them up on your days that you had them. I had a babysitter until you through a tantrum about not wanting to have a babysitter at all, and said that if you caught them with a babysitter you were going to take them. So there fore i lost the babysitter i had lined up for this weeek until they go back to school. And i will not mind my own business about babysitters because i am thier mother and have every right to have my nose in it. I sure dont tell you to mind your business when it concerns our children. And for that i should be deprived of going to school and work tomorrow. And you know what the result of that is going to be. And if that happens i will never forgive you for that. Every time i try to do something positive and move on with my life and ask for a little help with our children you always find some way to destroy it. |
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Kids stayed with Dave.
Dave called in to work to get vacation time, Tony his boss said his daughter
could baby-sit so Dave went to work at 10am. Takako was also
at work. Mandy was 14 years old, and a very nice girl. Stacy came by for a
couple of minutes around noon. She also left a voice mail to Dave saying that
she will be placing an ad in the paper this weekend to interview some
babysitters they can agree on, pretty much a repeat of the e-mails last night
but in a much more calmer tone. Mandy the babysitter
said they went fishing and caught two crabs which they stepped on and killed.
Mirrissa showed Mandy how to make tuna fish sandwich and cut her
thumb when cutting the pickles. Mandy said Stacy came by and spoke to the
kids for a few minutes then left right away because she had to go to
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picked her up, we went to the grocery store and bought a lot of groceries.
Later in the evening, when the kids were eating dinner, Stacy called and
spoke to Mirrissa. I whispered to her to ask her mom if she would like to visit
with them between school and work. Mirrissa said 'Oh good". They
discussed what they were having for dinner and Stacy seemed to be telling
Mirrissa that she need to eat more than just 'chicken' for nutrition. Zach
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-----Original Message----- From: Tony Malena Sent: Thursday, April 15, 2004 To: Subject: Job status (not coming in today) Importance: High Please understand (and/or let the other party involved know) that situations like this are continuing to put your job in jeopardy. I can't put it any other way without lessening the true meaning. Frankie will be extremely upset if she hears about this (especially happening on a day that is your "long" day, and with the workload you have to handle today). If you can find a way to get into the office, I suggest you do so. I'm really frustrated being caught in the middle because you are trying to take care of your children apparently but at the same time I need to worry about CUNNINGHAM's interests, and as has been told to me several ways, the latter is my primary concern. PLEASE stress this to the other party and see if there is some way you can clear up this problem. Thank you David. Anthony Malena Data Processing Manager Cunningham Research Department: DP@CunninghamResearch.Com Personal: TM@CunninghamResearch.Com |
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-----Original Message----- From: David Prather Sent: Thursday, April 15, 2004 To: Tony Malena Subject: RE: Job status (not coming in today) Tony, I am very sorry to put you and Cunningham in the position I am putting you in. I have been making every effort to make the schedule work that Stacy (The other party) created and agreed to. This whole situation is the reason I have attained a lawyer and am working toward getting an enforceable schedule worked out with the other party. I was on the phone with the other party until 2:30am last night trying to get her to understand that she cannot put me in these kind of positions. Calling me (at 10:30pm) and telling me that she cannot take the kids on her day (NEXT DAY) is not an option. I told her I can take the kids most any day she needs me to WITH AT LEAST 48 HOUR NOTICE. Anyway by the end of the night she was so mad that I called 911 and had a police officer go over and make sure she is ok. She thinks I am trying to stop her from going to school and work because I also told her that I cannot watch the kids today because (1. I have to work also. 2. Today is her scheduled day with the kids.) I know this makes no sense but that is the way she thinks. I am doing the best I can to get all of this resolved as quickly as possible. THANKS again for your help today. Do you want me to bring your daughter to your house tonight or are you going to come get her? I think my girlfriend gets off work at 5:00pm, do you want me to have her take your daughter to your house? David Prather :-) Cunningham Field & Research Services (386) 677-5644 X257 |
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-----Original Message----- From: Tony Malena Sent: Thursday, April 15, 2004 To: Subject: RE: Job status (not coming in today) I understand, and again, my frustration because I have to put Cunningham first despite my understanding of the situation at least in general. As for Amanda today, just let me know what time she will be "done" (I told her to plan for as late as 8:30pm worst case, though she'd stay later if needed I'm sure) and I'll pick her up. I am unclear how long my Retina appointment will take today (supposedly up to 2 hours?), so I may not be done by 5pm exactly. I will call you to verify what's going on at that time if we're not clear when Amanda is leaving before I leave at 2:45m today. Anthony Malena DP Manager |
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Dave went to work and
Takako babysat the kids. We went fishing and waited for Stacy
to come by. but she didn't. We ate lunch, had snacks and watch videos while we
waited for Dave to get home. We went to the movies and watched "The
prince and me". Came back, ate dinner, dessert, played chess, and
tickled each other. Kids were in general very disagreeable and prone to fits
and crying all week. Their attention span was shorter than usual, tolerance
for frustration lower. I heard Zach
threatening Mirrissa that he would "kill himself and go away forever, I
really will, and you will never see me again" when Mirrissa was being a
pest. Zach mentioned again that he wanted to baby-sit and get paid. Then he
said "Well I already do that with Mirrissa anyway, well only for a short
time but I take care of Mirrissa when Mommy goes to the store." Dave
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take their baths before mommy got here so that they will be ready for bed.
Mirrissa said yeah, we need to do that because there is no water at the
house. She said that one day they woke up and there was no water. I said,
"I didn't know Holly Hill was having so many problems with their
electricity and water because I had heard that the electricity was also shut
off one night. Mirrissa said yeah it
happened because mommy couldn't pay for it and the landlord shut stuff off.
Some time after 10pm, Stacy came to pick up the kids. 20 minutes later she
called demanding to know why Takako had called her son a
"mean son of a bitch" Dave said he will find out and get back to
her. She continued to say that if Takako is calling her son names, she will
have to deal with her. Dave repeated that he will get back to her and Stacy
said that he better call her back right away because she will not tolerate
any name calling or else.. Dave laughed and said "well, it's sounds better than some of the things you have called
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Friday, April 16, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Name calling between our children Why did Takako call Zach a “mean son of a bitch” while fishing on April 16th.? This is what Takako reported. The three of them were fishing on Friday around 11am. Zach was frustrated because his fishing line was getting tangled and he could not get it to cast. He had decided to catch some crabs with a loose fishing line and hook. Mirrissa’s fishing pole was working perfectly and she offered to let Zach borrow it. When Zach said, OK, can I use it?, Mirrissa said “NO”. Takako asked why not? And Mirrissa said that she offered to share just to say it but didn’t really mean it. Then she went over to where Zach was leaning over the water and started to poke the fishing rod around the area with the crab that Zach was trying to get. Zach became annoyed at Mirrissa and said “Mirrissa you are STUPID and MEAN, Get out of the way!!!”. Takako turned to Zach and said, “Zach, are you a name calling son of a bitch? Because if you continue to call Mirrissa names, that’s what you will become. “ Zach shook his head no, and said he would not call Mirrissa names anymore. Mirrissa poked Takako and whispered “you said the SB word…. You’re not supposed to DO that..”. Takako said “You are right, I did say that, didn’t I. I am explaining to Zach that he shouldn’t call you names because that will eventually make him something called in a name like that SB word”. Please read this paragraph to the kids and verify it. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Friday, April 16, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Schedule for Mother's Day.
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, April 17, 2004 To: Subject: Re: Schedule for Mother's Day. > Yes this will be fine with me, as long as you
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would agree to the week end swapping for Mother's day. In terms of taxes, she
said she claimed both children on her return. "I don't think there is
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, April 17, 2004 To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Schedule for Mother's Day. I would like to swap the weekend of May 1st with the weekend of May 8th. So the following will be our schedule for those two weeks. April 30th Fri: David as scheduled May 1st Sat: David May 2nd Sun: David, including overnight May 3rd Mon: David as scheduled May 4th Tue: Stacy as scheduled May 5th Wed: Stacy as scheduled May 6th Thur: Stacy as scheduled May 7th Fri: Stacy as scheduled May 8th Sat: Stacy May 9th Sun: Stacy, including overnight May 10th Mon : Stacy as scheduled May 11th Tue: David as scheduled Please let me know if this is accpetable. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: Saturday, April 17, 2004 To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Please have the kids call me so I can say goodnight. Thanks,David Prather David_P@BellSouth.net |
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if she will be dropping the kids off or will he need to pick up the kids.
Stacy did not call back. At 6:10pm, Dave called again and Zach answered the
phone. It seemed that they were not getting ready to leave so Dave said he
will come by shortly to pick them up. Zach had a new wooden model rifle that
John's friend Sam made for him. Zach wanted to take it with him but Stacy
said 'NO'. Zach hid the model rifle against his side as he walked out but
Stacy saw it. Dave asked why can't he take it with him?
Stacy replied that the toys need to stay here at her house. Later, Zach said
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sheets for laundry. Zach didn't want to go back to sleep and started eating
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: David_P@bellsouth.net Subject: summer program Dave, I found a summer program today for
our kids to go to this for summer break from school, It is here in Holly Hill
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court so she didn't drop off the kids in the morning. Kids said that Stacy
signed them up for day camp for the summer.
David asked Stacy if she could take them to karate
tomorrow. Stacy said that she already told the kids that they were going to
the Karate belt ceremony tomorrow and they should bring their uniforms in
their book bags. Kids said that Stacy never told them this when they spoke
with her on the phone. Stacy also wanted David to pick up the kids from work
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: summer program http://volusia.org/parks/summer-rec.htm Is this the program you are referring to? If not, please give me a web link or a phone number. But assuming this is the one you are talking about, it sounds like a good program. Which week were you thinking of sending them to this day camp? Below are some other day camps I was looking into for the kids this summer. We can probably send the kids to a combination of these camps. http://www.ormondbeach.org/leisure/spring04/camps-trips.pdf http://daytonasurfingschool.com/programs.htm http://www.moas.org/event_1_2004summer_school.html http://echotourism.com/msc/camp.htm The Ormond Beach YMCA has a day camp. (The website doesn't say anything but I have some flyers.) 'Karate for Kids' also has a day camp for one week. Please review and let me know |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: summer program > The summer program is for all summer not just a week, they will go Monday through Friday. The phone number is 248-9460. I will be going today and getting the applications for it because there are not very many more openings left. When you call this number just tell them you are calling about the summer program. |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: Schedule for Mother's Day. > I cannot change my schedule at work anymore because
there are only 4 of us working afternoon shift. So i will celebrate mothers
day on another day with them unless i am scheduled to have that day off, then
maybe we can just swap that day, to where i will have them that day and then
the following weekend you will have them on that day. That would be alot
easier. So until they hire more people i cant change my hours at work.
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Updated schedule I wrote this up per our conversation. Let me know if I got this correct. April 23rd Fri April 24th Sat David day and overnight as scheduled April 25th Sun April 26th Mon David pick up kids from school, Stacy pick
up at April 27th Tue David as scheduled April 28th Wed David as scheduled April 29th Thurs David pick up kids from school, Stacy
pick up at April 30th Fri David as scheduled May 1st Sat Stacy as scheduled May 2nd Sun Stacy as scheduled, Stacy overnight. May 3rd Mon David as scheduled May 4th Tue Stacy as scheduled May 5th Wed Stacy as scheduled May 6th Thu David as scheduled May 7th Fri Stacy as scheduled May 8th Sat David as scheduled May 9th Sun |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: RE: RE: summer program The Holly Hill program starts up right after school lets out and is the only program in the area that does that. So it is definitely the one we will send the kids to in the beginning. I have found that there are other similar programs for the
same cost or lower cost in the area. There is one held by the Volusia County
Leisure Services which is held at multiple sites, including http://volusia.org/parks/summer-rec.htm This camp is available from June 1st to July 23rd and I think it is the best choice as the kids will be in a familiar setting with their friends from school. I also feel that Holly Hill area attracts the wrong crowd and I would be worried about the kids making friends with the wrong kind of people. So I would like you to include these other options for the summer. I know that the kids want to go to Karate for Kids summer day camp starting June 7th for one week and I will be happy to pay for this additional cost. The program held at The Museum of Arts and Sciences is
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: RE: RE: summer program > Well i have already enrolled the kids in the summer
program. I dont agree with your way of thinking about Holly Hill
attracts the wrong kind of crowd for our kids, Because for one they would be
with kids their own age all summer long, And just because alot of people do
not have a lot of money does not make them the wrong crowd. I think it is
best for them to stay in one place for the summer instead of your idea of
dragging them all over the place. And they dont need to go to universal
studios, or wet N wild to have a good summer. There is nothing wrong with
this area of Holly Hill, I have met quite a few nice people about 4 of them
in which work across the street from me and also live in this area. And the
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They were thrilled to have a snack from mommy. Mirrissa called her to leave a
message on her voice mail and found that Stacy overslept and wasn't going to
school today. Dave met with Mirrissa's teacher and found out
that Stacy was taking them out of school early on her days
with the kids. This was happening at least once a week. The teacher had asked
Stacy why she was doing this and that it was not good for Mirrissa and her
work was suffering. Stacy said it was because they had to go get Zach's glasses
and other times it was because she missed them too much. The teacher asked
her not to do it but Stacy is continuing to do so. Now the teacher has asked
the principal to speak with Stacy. Dave updated the teacher on the parenting
schedule and what was going on at home regarding home works. On the way home
from Karate, Zach said mommy borrowed his 4 dollars so she could get a pack
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she asked Dave to take care of the kids. Dave picked up the kids and I
watched them. Kids did their homework relatively effortlessly and were in
good spirits. Zach said he was going to miss 10 minutes of Fun
Friday because his reading log was not completed. While he was doing his
homework, he said he didn't want to do a part of it because he has "a
choice" to not do it, all that is going to happen is he is going to miss
5 minutes of Fun Friday and he doesn't care. I told him home work has to be
done anyway but if he is determined to not do it, I can help him. I wrote
down the story as he told me. I signed it saying that Takako wrote the story
Zach told and to please give Zach partial credit for the work. Zach started
to get upset that I wrote this but then I reminded him that he wasn't going
to do it at all in the first place. After homework, Zach played UT and
Mirrissa and I cut out magazines, colored etc. Then we went to karate. Kids
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Unannounced visits Importance: High Stacy, I would like to request that you always get in contact with me by phone if you are going to be showing up at my place at times other than what is scheduled. I would like to be able to wrap up with the kids and get their stuff ready before you show up. This will avoid any unexpected surprise visits, as you are welcome in my house as much as I am in yours. I don’t think there is any need to call if the pick up is 30 minutes earlier or 30 minutes later than the scheduled time. Also you have requested that Takako should not speak to you directly. I expect you to do the same, especially in front of the kids. If you need to speak to Takako, please call me to set up an appointment. Many thanks for your consideration and patience towards these matters. David Prather |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: Unannounced visits > For your information i have every right to say things to her where it concerns Zachary and Mirrissa. For one she is not thier mommy in training. I am thier only mommy that they have. And she has no right to mess with thier heads where that is concerned. Number two i had every right to confront her about her calling Zachary what she did. And i had every right to pick up our children seems how it was my day to have them in the first place, and had you been there with them instead of at work. And also by the way she needs to also quit telling everyone at the childrens karate class that she is thier mommy in training also. (She needs to get something very clear that she is not thier mommy and never will be. I am the only mommy that they have or will ever need as the same goes for you. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Unannounced visits I agree you have every right to say what ever you want to Takako. I just request that you don't say anything to Takako in the presence of our children. They do not need to see any transactions between you and Takako. I am perfectly OK with you picking up the children early especially on the day that you are scheduled to have them in the first place. I just request that you let me know you will be doing this so I will know before hand that you are coming. This applies regardless of who is watching the kids. I put the people in charge of the kids in my absence and I want to make sure they are only left with people that I feel comfortable with. Of course I have and will continue to instruct anybody looking after our kids and our kids that you are their mother, and they should listen to you over any other person. I was present at Karate when Takako said to one of the instructors that she was 'STEP - mother in training'. Actually, the karate instructors assumed she was the kids mom and she firmly made sure that the instructors knew that the kids had a mom and that she wasn't even a step-mom. You should be thanking her. And as for her becoming a step-mom, there is nothing you can do about it because it will be our decision if we decide to marry. Just like there is nothing Takako can do to become the kids mother because she is not their mother. ************************************************************************** Just understand that you will call before showing up at an unscheduled time. ************************************************************************** |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: Unannounced visits > for one thing the instructors already know that i am the childrens mother because i have talked to them and i also had my name and information added to the kids application there. so nice try, and i dont owe her any thanks. Number two i really couldnt care less if you two get married or not. But she is not thier mommy in training and she needs to quit telling everyone that especially our children, they dont need that. They only have one mommy and that is me. And when i confronted her tonight i was not rude to her nor did i say anything to upset our kids. It upsets them more with the stuff she has been saying not i. Maybe you should take that in consideration the next time you let your girl friend run the show of what she is going to say to our children. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: Unannounced visits I think the karate instructors will appreciate you more if you brought them to class more often. As it is now, I can see how they cam mistakenly think Takako is their mom as she always encourages them and asks the instructor what she could be doing to help the kids learn a new skill. Then there will be no confusion in the eyes of the instructors. I will personally never let Takako say that she is the children's "MOMMY in TRAINING". I have no problem with her saying she is "STEP mother in training". You need to get it in your head that she NEVER said those words without the word "STEP" before them. I hope you can get past your obsession and hatred to see the facts. |
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Mirrissa's teacher got
Dave in touch with the new tutor and appointments were set up. Zach got a
terrific kid award and a coupon to Wendy's. We went to Wendy's for dinner. Later
Dave went to Wal-Mart to buy some school clothes for the kids. Kids were
really happy with their new clothes. Mirrissa had one dollar that her mom
gave her and she wanted to purchase a diary with a lock on it. We couldn't
find anything in Wal-Mart but the kids ran into a school helper that they
knew and she advised us of a dollar store nearby that carry diary's with a
lock. After shopping, we went to the dollar store and Mirrissa bought her
diary. We came home, played the Shrek game and it was time for bed. |
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Mirrissa told Dave that
Zach was sick last night. Dave asked Zach if he felt ok and he said yes. Dave
asked what happened and Zach said he puked last night. Dave asked well you seemed
fine when you were here but were you feeling sick? Zach said he got sick just
before bed. Dave asked if this was before or after he called and talked to
him. Zach said after. When asked if it was something he ate for dinner at his
moms or even something he ate at daddy's house.. Zach said he had had some
cookies before bed at his mommy's place and he thinks he ate too many of them
before bed. When Dave was on the phone with the kids saying goodnight, he
heard Stacy saying "hurry, you need to be in bed" so he thought
they went to bed immediately after.
Mirrissa brought up that mommy was 'really mad' after picking them up
and had told them 'I caught Takako in
a lie that she called Zach the S name'. I looked at her and said "it is
true I did say those words, but did I yell them at Zach or did I use the
words in a sentence?" Mirrissa said "In a sentence". |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Stacy Erickson (serickson01@bellsouth.net) Subject: Tutor for Mirrissa Stacy, I have hired a tutor for Mirrissa to improve her Math skills. Her tutor is a teacher at Pine Trail and recommended by Mrs. Hine. Her name is Jennifer Breter. Mirrissa will be staying after school every Monday,
Wednesday, and Thursday from Mrs. Breter already has plans that day. Please put this on your schedule. David Prather |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: Tutor for Mirrissa > it is so very nice that you people could discuss any of this with me before you go and do things like this, i have told you all along that i am not a silent parent and i am sick of being treated as such. You also need to take things into consideration about planning things with my work schedule and not just yours. I was never told anything about Mirrissa needing a tutor, neither you or Mrs Hines has said anything to me especially when i have gone in and talked to Mrs Hines about Mirrissa. I am really getting tired of you deciding everything yourself without including me in on it. And it will not happen anymore. |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: Tutor for Mirrissa You are welcome to speak to Mrs. Hine about this and get up to speed on what Mirrissa needs. If you have a better suggestion I am willing to consider it. I have watched Mirrissa's progress in first grade this year and I have known for quite some time that Mirrissa has difficulty with math. I didn't need Mrs. Hine to mention it to me. When I went in to hear an update on Mirrissa, I told her that I wanted to get Mirrissa help in this and Mrs. Hine agreed whole heartedly. As her mother, I am sure that had you noticed, you would have taken her right away anyway. So what difference does it make as long as Mirrissa gets what she needs. As for your schedule, this should not affect you since it is only an hour difference in the time you pick up the kids on the days you take care of them anyway. David |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: Re: RE: Tutor for Mirrissa > You are welcome to speak to Mrs. Hine about this and get up to speed on what Mirrissa needs. FOR YOUR INFORMATION I HAVE BEEN IN SEVERAL TIMES TO SPEAK TO MRS HINE ABOUT MIRRISSA PROGRESS, AND HAVE REQUESTED THAT SHE SEND HOME EXTRA MATH PROJECTS FOR HER TO WORK ON AT HOME SEVERAL TIMES, IN WHICH SHE HAS ONLY SENT IT HOME WITH HER ONCE. If you have a better suggestion I am willing to consider it. I have watched Mirrissa's progress in first grade this year and I have known for quite some time that Mirrissa has difficulty with math.
AND YES SO HAVE I AND I ALREADY KNOW THAT SHE IS GOING TO HAVE TO REPEAT THE
FIRST GRADE, IN WHICH THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT AT ALL. SHE ALSO HAD
TROUBLE IN KINDERGARTEN IF YOU RECALL, THE TEACHERS SAID THEN THAT SHE SHOULD
HAVE WAITED AN EXTRA YEAR TO to mention it to me. When I went in to hear an update on Mirrissa, I told her that I wanted to get Mirrissa help in this and Mrs. Hine agreed whole heartedly. As her mother, I am sure that had you noticed, you would have taken her right away anyway. I DID NOTICE AND I HAVE BEEN WORKING WITH HER MYSELF AT HOME, BUT THAT DOES NOT CHANGE THE FACT THAT SHE IS GOING TO HAVE TO REPEAT THE FIRST GRADE, AND I AM NOT GOING TO PUSH HER SO HARD THAT SHE DOES NOT WANT TO LEARN EITHER, LITTLE STEPS IS THE BEST FOR MIRRISSA NOT PUSHING HER SO HARD THAT IT DOES MORE DAMAGE THEN GOOD. So what difference does it make as long as Mirrissa gets what she needs.IT MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE BECAUSE AS HER MOTHER YOU SHOULD BE DISCUSSING THINGS WITH ME AND NOT BEHIND MY BACK, AS I INCLUDE YOU IN ON THINGS WHERE OUR CHILDREN ARE CONCERNED. As for your schedule, this should not affect you since it is only an hour difference in the time you pick up the kids on the days you take care of them anyway.IT MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE BECAUSE I HAVE TO BE TO WORK AT 2 AND THEY GET OUT OF SCHOOL AT 2 SO THIS IS ANOTHER REASON WHY YOU SHOULD BE TALKING WITH ME BEFORE YOU GO AND MAKE DECISIONS BEHIND MY BACK!!!!!!!! David |
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-----Original Message----- From: david_p@bellsouth.net [mailto:david_p@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: 'serickson01@bellsouth.net' Subject: RE: RE: Tutor for Mirrissa I am glad that you are spending extra time teaching Mirrissa. With our combined efforts I am sure she will improve. You should probably continue to remind Mrs. Hine for those extra math projects because she probably just forgot. I wasn't aware that the teachers at Kathleen had recommended that we keep Mirrissa and extra year to start first grade. Had I known that, we could have chosen to do so but you chose to enroll her because you "felt it would be good for her". Now you are saying that you don't want her to be pushed so hard. Your thoughts don't make any sense. However, as I see it, the tutor is actually going to be teaching her at her own pace and her unique learning style. I think Mirrissa need individual attention and she isn't getting enough of it at school. So based on your concern about pushing too hard, I think we are making the right choice. Either way, I think we should go with what ever Mrs. Hine recommends for Mirrissa. Although I was not aware that Mrs. Hine had spoken to you about Mirrissa repeating first grade but if that is what she thinks is best, that is fine with me. I didn't discuss anything "behind your back". I am just taking Mrs. Hines advice. I wish you could stop thinking about how everything affects you and start thinking about what is best for Mirrissa. I am also willing to work with your schedule. If you can't
go pick up Mirrissa at David |
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-----Original Message----- From: serickson01@bellsouth.net [mailto:serickson01@bellsouth.net] Sent: To: Subject: RE: RE: Tutor for Mirrissa > I wasn't aware that the teachers at Kathleen had recommended that we keep Mirrissa and extra year to start first grade. Had I known that, we could have chosen to do so but you chose to enroll her because you "felt it would be good for her". Now you are saying that you don't want her to be pushed so hard. Your thoughts don't make any sense. MY THOUGHTS DO MAKE SENSE, BECAUSE FOR ONE IT IS GOOD FOR HER TO BE WITH KIDS HER OWN AGE, FOR SHE IS SO MUCH MORE IMMATURE THAN MOST KIDS HER AGE, AND IT HAS NOT HURT HER IN ANY WAY BECAUSE SHE HAS LEARNED ALOT OF THINGS. SO HOW YOU CAN SAY THAT MY THOUGHTS DONT MAKE ANY SENSE??However, as I see it, the tutor is actually going to be teaching her at her own pace and her unique learning style. I think Mirrissa need individual attention and she isn't getting enough of it at school. So based on your concern about pushing too hard, I think we are making the right choice. Either way, I think we should go with what ever Mrs. Hine recommends for Mirrissa. Although I was not aware that Mrs. Hine had spoken to you about Mirrissa repeating first grade but if that is what she thinks is best, that is fine with me. I didn't discuss anything "behind your back". I am just taking Mrs. Hines advice. I wish you could stop thinking about how everything affects you and start thinking about what is best for Mirrissa. AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION YOU ARE THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO STOP THINKING EVERYTHING AFFECTS ME, WHEN BY NOT DISCUSSING THINGS TOGETHER AS PARENTS THAT IS WHAT AFFECTS OUR CHILDREN. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO START THINKING ABOUT THAT WHEN YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT NEEDS TO MAKE THE DECISSIONS WHERE IT CONCERNS OUR CHILDREN. I am also willing to work with your schedule. If you can't go pick up Mirrissa at let me know 48 hours ahead of time when I need to do this.AND I HAVE TOLD YOU TIME AND TIME AGAIN THAT THEY NEED TO HAVE ONE BABYSITTER NOT TWO. AND THEY WILL. |