Ms. Jane Devine 10/13 appointment

Exchange location. I am not comfortable having Stacy come to my front door. This has caused numerous confrontations and I am not comfortable with the kids observing the transaction. The relationship between Stacy and I are so strained that even the simplest thing like exchange of information about school has a very negative connotation.

Publix on US1

Ormond Beach Police station

Neighbor's house

Direct school or daycare pick up.

Wait in the car quietly until children are brought out.

Property exchange has become a problem. Disputes over what toys, or clothing can go to the other house etc can best be avoided if we meet at a neutral location away from the house. Each parent needs to be able to assert authority over the children in "their territory".

Clothing. Kids go home in the clothes they came in.

Kids can take or bring any toy that they own (as long as practical).

Parent who purchased the toy decides with the child where it can and can't go.

I want to request a firm time for the exchange, and phone calls. Ambiguous time. late arrivals, early arrivals cause anxiety in kids. We are constantly watching to door to see when Stacy will show up. I want to be able to do some transitional activities to help "close" the visit. Especially because we won't see each other for a while.

The parent ending their visitation time drops them off at the other parent's home.

At a play ground or a Burger king. Drop off parent can specify location. Kids can play with out being "on call". When the parent sees the other parent's car, they can say good bye and leave the location before the other parent walks up.

I would like to eliminate face to face contact as well as telephone contact with Stacy. I think it will help the children if we kept all communications between Stacy and I in written format.

Parents need to stay more than 100 feet apart from each other.

Information relayed by letter, fax or email only

Information relayed by Ms. Devine.

I am reluctant to phone the kids because it always seems to end up in an argument between the kids and Stacy. I don't mind that Stacy listens to the conversations between us. I am uncomfortable with her interjecting her opinions as we talk. I want the kids to be able to tell me their opinions when they are on the phone with me. If she needs to explain something that she heard the kids say to me she can e-mail me about it later. I would like to set a firm schedule for contact and the conduct of both parents at the time of the calls.

Monday Wednesday and Friday at 7:30pm to 8:00pm

The main concern in all of this is that I am afraid kids will see an argument or other negativity between Mom and Dad. I want to avoid face to face confrontation as well as telephone contact. I know the relationship between Stacy and I is not good. I don't want the kids to learn our bad habits when it comes to relating with other people. I think we are bad examples and I want to make sure they are exposed to as little as possible and get to observe other more positive interactions.